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I’m I the only one who CANNOT DANCE?

Triana M

Curious! So, I’m someone who’s very musically inclined. I have a great ear and rhythm I play a number of instruments.. started when I was young it was something I took upon myself spending hours and hours a day writing music etc etc and yet I cannot fathom getting out on a dance floor and just letting myself move to music. Even alone it just.. does not come naturally to me. I’ll take it a step further and say it makes me cringe. To the point I now avoid these kinds of settings where people are dancing or music is involved. Scared of being asked to dance or expected to, unable to explain why I JUST CANNOT. Is this connected to autism, possibly? Can anyone relate to this sense of rigidity when it comes to dancing or an overwhelming sense awkwardness when subjected to music events where people are dancing?

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  • I don't know if it is an autistic thing but I would also feel super awkward dancing - it wouldn't even cross my mind to try at this point (I think the last time I was meant to was possibly in some kindof school related setting- I don't think I have ever tried it when on my own). 

    I do like music though- I used to play the violin (from age 4) and I love singing. So I think liking music does not necessarily mean liking to dance... 

    I think the record time I ever survived in a setting involving music and dancing (a nightclub) was under 30 minutes and that took a lot of convincing and it will be the first and last time ever for me (too loud, too many people, too much of everything...). So I am in awe of anyone who manages to cope with and even enjoy such events :) 

    Sorry, not sure this is of any use. 

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  • I don't know if it is an autistic thing but I would also feel super awkward dancing - it wouldn't even cross my mind to try at this point (I think the last time I was meant to was possibly in some kindof school related setting- I don't think I have ever tried it when on my own). 

    I do like music though- I used to play the violin (from age 4) and I love singing. So I think liking music does not necessarily mean liking to dance... 

    I think the record time I ever survived in a setting involving music and dancing (a nightclub) was under 30 minutes and that took a lot of convincing and it will be the first and last time ever for me (too loud, too many people, too much of everything...). So I am in awe of anyone who manages to cope with and even enjoy such events :) 

    Sorry, not sure this is of any use. 

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  • in reply to Ann :)

    Yes that resonates/is helpful to hear. I never went to any of the school dances in middle school or highschool. Like I was avoiding the plague. What’s even more interesting is the social expectation for one to attend. I always understood the importance of keeping up with social norms and always struggled with that. And yet I was willing to see past that expectation and not attend. It was simply THAT unappealing to me. Nearly torturous. 

    thanks for chiming in