My beautiful partner is showing some resistance to me saying I think he is autistic. I know this will be a shock to him and who likes someone telling you what you think are aspects of your person which some may say are not ideal? (not me, thats him saying it) by all means I totally understand this. We all have aspects of our personality we dont want to face and believe me, I have mine.
He has never faced this before. Am I wrong in trying to get him to accept this about himself? I know he struggles and I love him and want to do what is best for him, be that leave it alone or support him as he discovers this.
Any advice will be appreciated.
I do think his autism has negatively impacted huge parts of his life- losing his home and being financially ruined for one as he cannot deal with everyday bills and financial doings. In the same sentence he is also a brilliant person with an extraordinary mind. While I am ordinary, he is extra- ordinary and I celebrate this, but I dont want him to suffer in certain parts of his life anymore.
What do I do? I am moving things on slowly and talking to him, but I wanted t get some feedback from the wider community in regards to how to approach the subject with him.
I am a teacher and am trained in SEN. I have lived with him for 2 years and can see various behaviours which point me towards autism.
Thank you for reading this and if you can help, I will be very grateful.
Jane.
