Advice on relationships with someone with autism

My partner has autism- though undiagnosed. I understand completely. 

Firstly i think you should make sure you have some you time, time when you see friends and family etc on your own. It doesnt mean you are a bad partner, it is just what you need and believe me he probably needs it too. Its fine and its totally normal.

Secondly, you have to think what you want from him in regards to your problems. If I am feeling emotional, a good hug from him helps. He is also exceptionally good at seeing things how they truly are, without the cloud of emotion that I have sometimes. So he is great at figuring out what to do in the cold light of day, as it were. It also has made me good at figuring out my emotions myself. If we can learn from our partners that is surely a great thing.

Losing sanity? yes. But that is true of any relationship. Your partner can help but in a surprisingly new way. Try asking him for help by asking what he would do. My partner likes to say 'forget about it' and while at first that seems unhelpful it is actually really good advice. I promise. Try saying it. 'Forget about it'. It works. 

Remember,  a short breather from each other is good. Take time to look after yourself as well as looking after him.

My partner has autism- though undiagnosed. I understand completely. 

Firstly i think you should make sure you have some you time, time when you see friends and family etc on your own. It doesnt mean you are a bad partner, it is just what you need and believe me he probably needs it too. Its fine and its totally normal.

Secondly, you have to think what you want from him in regards to your problems. If I am feeling emotional, a good hug from him helps. He is also exceptionally good at seeing things how they truly are, without the cloud of emotion that I have sometimes. So he is great at figuring out what to do in the cold light of day, as it were. It also has made me good at figuring out my emotions myself. If we can learn from our partners that is surely a great thing.

Losing sanity? yes. But that is true of any relationship. Your partner can help but in a surprisingly new way. Try asking him for help by asking what he would do. My partner likes to say 'forget about it' and while at first that seems unhelpful it is actually really good advice. I promise. Try saying it. 'Forget about it'. It works. 

Remember,  a short breather from each other is good. Take time to look after yourself as well as looking after him.

Thank you, and I understand, I barely have time for myself, and I live away from my family hence why I feel so alone, but will defo say what I want wether it be a hug or a convo, he’s great at expressing himself over text, even if he’s upstairs and downstairs and that seems to help him