Advice on relationships with someone with autism

Hey guys!

so my partner recently got diagnosed with autism, and I’m finding it really hard with him at the moment, we’ve been together 5 years next month, I support him in all ways possible, but I’m tired of people saying he’s lucky to have me, because the pressure to be supportive all the time is stressing me out, so when I want to talk to him as my partner about my issues he can’t help me, I feel so down and alone

i don’t want to leave him, but I feel like I’m losing my sanity sometimes

any advice at all?

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Peter over 3 years ago

why can't you talk to him about your issues? There's nothing intrinsic to autism that stops us caring about other peoples problems?
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Nerdylittlething over 3 years ago in reply to Peter

Thanks for messaging Peter, I can’t talk to him because he doesn’t know what to say or do and it stresses him out, and that’s the last thing I want to do
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Nerdylittlething over 3 years ago in reply to Peter

Thanks for messaging Peter, I can’t talk to him because he doesn’t know what to say or do and it stresses him out, and that’s the last thing I want to do
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Nerdylittlething over 3 years ago in reply to Peter

Thanks for your advice, I’ll be sure to take it on board
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Peter over 3 years ago in reply to Nerdylittlething

then you need to lay down some ground rules for when you share things. eg

A) if you just want him to listen that's all he has to do. Tell him so.

B) if there is something he can actually do to help you feel better tell him so don't ask him to guess. eg if you want a cuddle.
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