Supporting my ND partner through grief

Hi

Apologies for the long story but here goes...

I am the NT partner of an ND lady who is absolutely amazing. Being in a relationship with her has been eye opening and it has been a privilege to get to know her and start, very gradually and with her help, to see the world from her perspective. She has told me she Asperger's (apologies if that is not the correct nomenclature, I am still learning the right and wrong things to say). 

She is incredibly intelligent and challenges me on many subjects and we have had some brilliant conversations. We have been talking for months and actually dating for about 10 weeks.

Late last week her dog, which she has had for many years and has been through some traumatic experiences with her, got very sick and had to be put down. This was quite sudden and she only had a couple of days to say goodbye. She does not have or intend to have any children and had a very deep bond with this lovely animal and she is absolutely devastated. 

I did my best to support her and look after her over the weekend and she as said how much she appreciates me being there for her. I had told her that any time she felt she needed time on her own to let me know and on Monday morning she did just that.

I would be hugely grateful for any insight anyone can give me into the ND grieving process as I am conscious that it will likely be very different from the way most NT people process grief.

Also any suggestions about the best way I can support her and things to and possibly more importantly NOT to do would be very gratefully received.

This amazing lady means the world to me and I really want to help her in any way I can. 

Thanks

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