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Is ignoring offensive comments, hate or criticism just avoidance? Would ignoring them or isolating myself from such situations help with rejection sensitive dysphoria or make it worse?
Well it depends what effect those things have on you. I think that it'll impact you if a part of you agrees that those negative things are true.
I think that if someone is avoiding something out of fear, then those negative comments will bother them and make them feel uneasy, and unless they choose to face that fear and come to terms with it, they'll be affected by what others say about them.
But if someone knows that the other person is just trying to rile them up, and they know it's not worth their time or energy to interact with that idiot, and they turn themselves away from that idiot to concentrate on the other and more important in life, then that's a sign of maturity. I mean you can spend 3 hours arguing with an idiot and you can't get that time back, or you can spend 3 hours eating popcorn and watching a movie you enjoy, or 3 hours doing anything else you want to do, but that time is yours and not wasted on that idiot.
I'd say if someone fears rejection, they should try to do what they're afraid of, so they understand how that fear affects them, and find different ways to approaching a situation, so that fear doesn't always end in the same way.
It reminds me of a TED talk I watched the other day on YouTube, called "Jia Jiang: What I learned from 100 days of rejection". Here is the link, or the video title can be searched up.
Basically a synopsis is that he has a fear of rejection that's haunted him since childhood. But since that fear was interfering with his business goals in his adult life, he did an experiment where he'd film himself asking someone something outlandish, in order to face rejection.
Well it depends what effect those things have on you. I think that it'll impact you if a part of you agrees that those negative things are true.
I think that if someone is avoiding something out of fear, then those negative comments will bother them and make them feel uneasy, and unless they choose to face that fear and come to terms with it, they'll be affected by what others say about them.
But if someone knows that the other person is just trying to rile them up, and they know it's not worth their time or energy to interact with that idiot, and they turn themselves away from that idiot to concentrate on the other and more important in life, then that's a sign of maturity. I mean you can spend 3 hours arguing with an idiot and you can't get that time back, or you can spend 3 hours eating popcorn and watching a movie you enjoy, or 3 hours doing anything else you want to do, but that time is yours and not wasted on that idiot.
I'd say if someone fears rejection, they should try to do what they're afraid of, so they understand how that fear affects them, and find different ways to approaching a situation, so that fear doesn't always end in the same way.
It reminds me of a TED talk I watched the other day on YouTube, called "Jia Jiang: What I learned from 100 days of rejection". Here is the link, or the video title can be searched up.
Basically a synopsis is that he has a fear of rejection that's haunted him since childhood. But since that fear was interfering with his business goals in his adult life, he did an experiment where he'd film himself asking someone something outlandish, in order to face rejection.
