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What it means to talk "AT" people?

Puzzled.

Hello all.

On my diagnosis sheet, my assessor makes a point of saying that throughout the assessment I was often talking "At" her, rather than with her.

This is also a point that my Wife and several other people through my life have picked up on in the past, and it's something I would really like to be able to understand, address and hopefully be able to change, or at least pick up on the fact that I am doing it in order to try and curb it.

The problem is, I have no idea what talking "At" people even means in order to even try and get a grasp on it.

Is there anybody here who could maybe help me out?

Thank you.

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  • in reply to Shadweller

    To add to that, I think there can also be an lack of concern as to how one is being received. My father, who I'm convinced is also Autistic, would sometimes go on such long, long, endless monologues that were completely uninteresting to me. He seemed both unable to stop, and unable to notice, or even care, that I was really not interested, to the point of being bored to death. This really did not help our relationship at that time.

    I'm convinced that I have inherited my Autism from him, but while he is on the very verbally articulate to the point of giftedness extreme, and talkative to the point of monologues that go on far too long for most people extreme, I'm often at the other extreme, where I can have trouble converting thoughts and feelings into speech. Whilst there can be a lot going on in my head I can have trouble expressing this verbally in conversation.

    It's so contradictory that both polar extremes can be features of Autism, but it is the case that the way Autism plays out across individuals can vary so much. Even from father to son, they can have their Autism display in very different ways. Communication differences is a prominent example of this.