My daughter was diagnosed recently with ASD (and anxiety, social phobia and OCD). She's been misdiagnosed several times and is now 16 y.o. Her psychologist doesn't think it's useful for her to know her own diagnosis at this point and neither does my husband. I really think that she has a right to know (though obviously it should be explained carefully at the right time and we don't need to dwell on it). My husband is telling her we can talk to her school and get her some help with her work because she has OCD and she's like "Why would I get help with my work because I have OCD?". I think that my daughter is strong enough to handle her own diagnosis and they are worried it will tip her over the edge as she's so desperate to be a normal teenager who fits in. Also, if we tell the school, as we should, wouldn't it be worse if she found out through someone else? Am I being selfish because I am an open person and because I myself feel the need to discuss the diagnosis? I think that if she knows why she's different, she will understand that difference better. I am English but my husband isn't and we often have different opinions but I feel we need to be open to get the necessary support.
