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Death

Ellie b

I can't accept the circle of life I see people who r our loved ones when took away from us am being punished i been grieving for my nan 14 years now she was my best friend she was what kept me strong when I was constantly bullied she unexpectedly died from a stroke never can accept it to painful now my other nan has covid pneumonia trying to tell my head to focus on the positive but extremely extremely ill this is causing massive meltdowns.

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  • I'm sorry you;re felling so unstable about the whole thing.

    I've experienced a lot of people dying around me and no two deaths are the same.    The 'drop dead' ones are the hardest to deal with - no warning, no time to say goodbye, no time to close the loops - they're just gone,    It takes a long time to get over it - if you ever can.    My dad dropped dead over 20 years ago - I miss him every day.

    Since then, my mum just gave up on life so when she dropped dead a few years ago, I didn't feel anything but 'it's good that she's now at peace'..   No real emotion at all.

    I've had others linger so you can get to talk it all out with them before they go - but it's very hard to watch people slowly die.

    The only advice I can give is time will fix it and make it less painful.    It never goes away, but you'll manage to cope with it eventually.   It's just really tough right now to be in the middle of it.

  • in reply to Plastic

    My father was killed in the 'Troubles' in 1989.

    My mum was in a road collision - with me in the passenger seat - and suddenly deteriorated; until she died thirteen years ago.

    My gran ended up paranoid and hypervigilent since then. My brother left school at 16 with no qualifications - he was withdrawn - and ended up gaining qualifications in Tech; registering for Uni the morning gran died.

    Death is part of life; in Rural Ireland. We pay our respects. However, some who honour you after death would've stabbed you in the back when you're alive.

    Treasure the memories.

  • in reply to Desmond79

    that was good  until the last line which is vicious

    "some who honour you after death would've stabbed you in the back when you're alive."

    blimey Slight smile

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