Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello All, I am new to here.
I'm having severe anxiety over a problem. I know I have to address it or it wont go away. I wonder how others with ASD deal with the issues we have.
Q: How to explain/ask/tell family member not to call me often and only short calls.
This particular person is difficult because he doesn't accept Asperger's. He is very intense and overwhelms me and I've always hidden myself, just try to get through and survive interactions and pacify people. I've given a wrong impression of myself to everyone before my diagnosis and now I have to try to speak up where needed, so I can move foreword with life. I would just have nothing to do with him only he is my brother.
I would so so appreciate any suggestions as Im not getting anywhere searching internet, all the time anxiety builds.
Ive avoided posting on here since I was Diagnosed with Aspergers 2 & half yrs ago, as Im introverted, struggle to explain myself and avoid new things. But here goes.
Hey there, first of all it's OK to screen calls. I probably answer less than half the calls I receive when I receive them and I call back when I feel ready OR I text back a brief response.
Secondly, I plan how long to speak and have a reason to end the call.
Thirdly, I encourage use of texts, email or message apps by pointing out I am less likely to forget if it's written down.
I use the severity of my negative response to the phone as a marker of my anxiety disorder. If it's too bad, I increase self care strategies