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School was a struggle for me. I was bullied in primary and high school. I did refuse sometimes, I used to pretend to be ill. But that was just during high school as the bullying was physical. Try and find out the exact reason they are refusing and try and tackle it one at a time. If it is school in general, then I had copying mechanisms. I would focus on a subject I loved and try and look positivily that I am going to have that class. Doodling and colouring was big for me, but that can also cause problems as it can be a distraction. If you can find a middle ground I find it very helpful (I used to colour square books) as I found that it helped me to ignore other stimulus in the area and still focus on what the teacher was saying. But that may not work with how young they are, I dont know.

I also spoke to the school (well my mum did) to explain the situation and I had two systems put in place. One was a traffic light system with my teachers. Green I was fine. Amber I was struggaling a bit so they would keep an eye on me and possibly limit my participation (No picking me to answer questions etc.) And then red lead to the other system, a time out card basically. I would show the card to my teacher and get to stand outside the classroom to regain myself so I wasnt too overwhlemed.

I also had a trusted teacher, someone who knew exactly what was wrong and things that bothered me and during lunch if I needed space I could go to them, or if I was having issues and struggled to even tell my mum I could tell them. This has been throughout all my education in varying degrees.

Most of this was in high school. But I hope there is something that can help them. I can also ask my mum how my brother was and what she did to support me and him if you want.

School was a struggle for me. I was bullied in primary and high school. I did refuse sometimes, I used to pretend to be ill. But that was just during high school as the bullying was physical. Try and find out the exact reason they are refusing and try and tackle it one at a time. If it is school in general, then I had copying mechanisms. I would focus on a subject I loved and try and look positivily that I am going to have that class. Doodling and colouring was big for me, but that can also cause problems as it can be a distraction. If you can find a middle ground I find it very helpful (I used to colour square books) as I found that it helped me to ignore other stimulus in the area and still focus on what the teacher was saying. But that may not work with how young they are, I dont know.

I also spoke to the school (well my mum did) to explain the situation and I had two systems put in place. One was a traffic light system with my teachers. Green I was fine. Amber I was struggaling a bit so they would keep an eye on me and possibly limit my participation (No picking me to answer questions etc.) And then red lead to the other system, a time out card basically. I would show the card to my teacher and get to stand outside the classroom to regain myself so I wasnt too overwhlemed.

I also had a trusted teacher, someone who knew exactly what was wrong and things that bothered me and during lunch if I needed space I could go to them, or if I was having issues and struggled to even tell my mum I could tell them. This has been throughout all my education in varying degrees.

Most of this was in high school. But I hope there is something that can help them. I can also ask my mum how my brother was and what she did to support me and him if you want.