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Could I have Aspergers?

Pluto123
over 8 years ago

Hi,

Firstly, sorry if this is the wrong place to post this and sorry if I'm too young (16). 

For a year or so I have wondered if I might have Aspergers (I'm a 16 year old female), and wondered what people here think?

I have always been the shy and socially awkward kid who doesn't really fit in, and I have been bullied/teased for not fitting in (e.g not wearing makeup). Possibly as a result, I tend to avoid talking to people I don't know (through fear of getting it wrong I suppose, before when I've tried what I've said has never seemed right if that makes sense?), and absolutley avoid eye contact because I find it awkward and uncomfortable, even for a second. At school, I am generally in the top sets, being especially strong in maths (perhaps one of the best in the year). Although, I do doubt myself and my abilities, and always have to triple (if not more) check the time and details if I am meeting someone or going somewhere.

I didn't realise it before, but I do become obsessed with things. For example, a few years ago (and still) it was a pony, when I was younger I was interested in mountain goats and had a folder full of information about them!! In addition, I used to have a lot of tantrums and strops when I was younger (perhaps meltdowns?), and cracked the paintwork in my room through slamming the door!

There are a few more things but I feel like I've written too much already!! Could this be Aspergers, or is it just me trying to explain why I don't fit in? 

Thanks in advance for any advice, and sorry again if I have posted this in the wrong place x

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  • over 8 years ago

    Anonymous said:

    Not sure about CBT but if it teaches strategies for navigating a Neuro-Typical world then that has to be a good thing.

    CBT is one tool that helps people become more accepting/less critical of themselves. All people make mistakes, or have misunderstandings in their dealings with the world. People with autism have more than their share and the repeated confrontations etc can be taken too much to heart and the world can seem to be a bleak and hostile place. CBT helps you to take a more positive outlook on the situation, mistakes are events that we can learn from, the mistakes are not as serious as we thought they were, a lot of things will come right if you have another attempt at the problem. CBT helps you to challenge your thinking and to look to the future.

    A separate strand of learning how to deal with autism is to understand more about how our interactions go wrong. If you can learn about how things go wrong then you can learn strategies to avoid the situation or to deal with the situation better next time. So, I have learnt to be more patient when dealing with people. I expect not to get my message across and I expect to misunderstand other people. I have learnt that I can admit a mistake and have another go in an awful lot of situations. People are mostly forgiving of mistakes and I have adjusted my self image - I expect to be less right than I think I am and I expect to need more time in dealing with other people.

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  • over 8 years ago

    Anonymous said:

    Not sure about CBT but if it teaches strategies for navigating a Neuro-Typical world then that has to be a good thing.

    CBT is one tool that helps people become more accepting/less critical of themselves. All people make mistakes, or have misunderstandings in their dealings with the world. People with autism have more than their share and the repeated confrontations etc can be taken too much to heart and the world can seem to be a bleak and hostile place. CBT helps you to take a more positive outlook on the situation, mistakes are events that we can learn from, the mistakes are not as serious as we thought they were, a lot of things will come right if you have another attempt at the problem. CBT helps you to challenge your thinking and to look to the future.

    A separate strand of learning how to deal with autism is to understand more about how our interactions go wrong. If you can learn about how things go wrong then you can learn strategies to avoid the situation or to deal with the situation better next time. So, I have learnt to be more patient when dealing with people. I expect not to get my message across and I expect to misunderstand other people. I have learnt that I can admit a mistake and have another go in an awful lot of situations. People are mostly forgiving of mistakes and I have adjusted my self image - I expect to be less right than I think I am and I expect to need more time in dealing with other people.

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