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Hi Everyone,

I have recently been diagnosed with A.S.C. at my diagnosis I was told to look for literature on high functioning autism and Aspergers.

I am a mum to two boys 3 & 3 months and am trying to come to terms with my diagnosis and how to parent two children to the best of my abilities. I dont know many other parents who are in the same situation and haven't had a chance to come to terms with my diagnosis before the premature birth of my second child. Sleep depravation kicking in and I have so much to learn.

I don't fit in with other parents and am dreading playgroup and school. it was bad enough the first time around!

Thank you for reading, I look forward to looking through the discussions and hope I can be support to people too.

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  • Hi Thoughtful Spot,

    I'm not sure I can advise too much on being a mother but I am father to two young children. I'm sure you're doing an amazing job.

    If there is a rare day when I have to pick my eldest one up from school, I tend to sit in the car until 15.24, with pick up time being 15.25.

    The way I see it and it's not always been this way, if you don't actually want to interact in the school playground, then you don't have to do so. I used to think that I was duty bound to socialise and take part in things that I found incredibly difficult.

    Once I realised that I was just different (and that's pre and post diagnosis) then it became a lot easier. 

    After all, who was I trying to please? 

    Ultimately, I guess myself and proving that I can fit in and can do things which others seem to find so simple. 

    I've accepted now that I have nothing to prove to myself and it makes things far easier I've found.

    Finally, because I am starting to ramble as usual, you sound like a great Mum. Your children clearly come first , ahead of everything else and that's even harder if you factor in your condition.

    Well done.

    F.

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  • Hi Thoughtful Spot,

    I'm not sure I can advise too much on being a mother but I am father to two young children. I'm sure you're doing an amazing job.

    If there is a rare day when I have to pick my eldest one up from school, I tend to sit in the car until 15.24, with pick up time being 15.25.

    The way I see it and it's not always been this way, if you don't actually want to interact in the school playground, then you don't have to do so. I used to think that I was duty bound to socialise and take part in things that I found incredibly difficult.

    Once I realised that I was just different (and that's pre and post diagnosis) then it became a lot easier. 

    After all, who was I trying to please? 

    Ultimately, I guess myself and proving that I can fit in and can do things which others seem to find so simple. 

    I've accepted now that I have nothing to prove to myself and it makes things far easier I've found.

    Finally, because I am starting to ramble as usual, you sound like a great Mum. Your children clearly come first , ahead of everything else and that's even harder if you factor in your condition.

    Well done.

    F.

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