Skip to main content
Close Button
Donate
  • Replies 3 replies
  • Subscribers 87 subscribers
  • Views 403 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Hi Everyone

conethree
over 8 years ago

Hi,

30 year old male here...

I've joined to find out about other peoples experiences of living with aspergers (which I suspect I have - I've done multiple AQ tests and get 44 upwards / 50 depending on who's test it is).

I've been struggling since as far as I can remember (probably since about the age of 5) to do all the normal day to day things which everyone around me seem to do perfectly well. I've always struggled to speak / interact with "normal" people, They don't understand me and they rapidly become bored of me.

Recently I had a complete meltdown and I ended up in A&E after a suicide attempt, and have now been referred to the local psych team - I'm hoping to get them to diagnose my ASD (if that is what it is)

I have no friends now, my parents don't really care anymore as they think I'm just an idiot who likes to act in a manner outside of the social norms, my sister is the only one who I have to talk to and its becoming clear that she can't really handle all of this - she has her own problems.

So, I've joined this forum to hopefully find some likeminded people to talk to.

C

Parents
  • over 8 years ago

    Hi conethree,

    Welcome to the forum. Your story is very common on the forum and there are a good number of adults who know what you are going through. I was diagnosed at 56 after a life of clattering about and like a lot of the others, have had depression and anxiety etc. If you know what the underlying problem is (and it sounds as though there isn't much doubt with a score like that) then you can use that as a tool to make your future much better than your past.

    Have you come across Valerie Gaus's book http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Well-Spectrum-Challenges-High-Functioning/dp/1606236342 which I think is a good place to start with reinventing your life.

    Your parents lack of sympathy may indicate that they are affected too. Autism is commonly genetic and it can create a "nurture plus nature" problem for children. This is speculative and don't take it as me blaming anyone - if one of them is on the spectrum then they will be suffering too.

Reply
  • over 8 years ago

    Hi conethree,

    Welcome to the forum. Your story is very common on the forum and there are a good number of adults who know what you are going through. I was diagnosed at 56 after a life of clattering about and like a lot of the others, have had depression and anxiety etc. If you know what the underlying problem is (and it sounds as though there isn't much doubt with a score like that) then you can use that as a tool to make your future much better than your past.

    Have you come across Valerie Gaus's book http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Well-Spectrum-Challenges-High-Functioning/dp/1606236342 which I think is a good place to start with reinventing your life.

    Your parents lack of sympathy may indicate that they are affected too. Autism is commonly genetic and it can create a "nurture plus nature" problem for children. This is speculative and don't take it as me blaming anyone - if one of them is on the spectrum then they will be suffering too.

Children
No Data