Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi new here and looking at getting a diagnosis for aspergers which i am 99% sure i have, i test highly on the tests online i have done and i am struggling a lot with day to day life lately.
I have always been seen as very shy, have no friends and cant strike up conversations with people, i cant say hi to people in passing, i wait until they say hi to me, i know i am probably seen as weird, even with people i know well like my mum and husband i struggle with what to say, i can have in length conversations with people in my head but fail to do so in real life, i am having more and more meltdowns every day, noise gets to me, going to shops is a struggle, feel my mind is just whirring, i like peace and quiet but at the same time want to have friends, i get frustrated easily and take my anger out on my husband, he has said i should see about getting officially diagnosed but not sure what purpose that would have.
Only my husband knows i am on the spectrum, dont see the point in telling anyone else, not even my kids.
Have only just realised in the last year that i am on the spectrum, just thought this was just me, someone who is socially inept and weird, my son was diagnosed with autism 2 years ago and its only after reading up stuff that i realise it describes me so well.
I am in my mid thirties and have never worked, am a stay at home mum and have a lot of stress in my life and finding it harder and harder to deal with this.
Would love to hear from others out there, just feel so alone.
Hi, Welcome to the forum, I have similar problems, finding genral life getting harder. I have been recently diagnosed at 49. Your very lucky to have an understanding husband, I always struggled building any close relationship and on my own, life is very difficult these days being single.
I was not sure about getting diagnosed, I thought it would help getting some talking therapy which helped me over a year ago. I am still fighting to get some help.
The diagnosis has helped me realise how my condition is driving my anxiety, depression and other difficulties. Starting to join some of the dots together, I think it gives me a better base to move forward.
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