hi im new

I understand that you are posting here because you are finding the situation difficult. What is it that you are finding difficult? Do you object to his decision not to wash regularly, or are there further implications for you or others in your household? Have you been able to understand his perspective? He may, for example, have sensory difficulties e.g. finding it painful to take a shower due to the sensation of the water on his skin, or finding the scents of deodorant intolerable. Perhaps the clothes he is wearing are comfortable and so be doesn't want to change them. Or maybe the pressure from having everything tried upon him is too much.

As you will realise, you cannot force him to simply go along with your preferences for him. But understanding what makes it difficult for him could be helpful in and of itself. There are no guarantees, but it could lead to even a partial resolution.  For example, if scents and showing are intolerable, he may manage washing the essential body parts with plain water, having enough comfortable items of clothing available could make it possible to change them at an agreed frequency so that residual body odour on clothing is minimised.

In the absence of other responses I have shared my thoughts in an attempt to be helpful. I do not have children, but I have been a 14 year old (and now an adult) who does not simply accept being told what to do and who has found it useful when someone attempts to understand me and not compel me to follow their agenda.

I understand that you are posting here because you are finding the situation difficult. What is it that you are finding difficult? Do you object to his decision not to wash regularly, or are there further implications for you or others in your household? Have you been able to understand his perspective? He may, for example, have sensory difficulties e.g. finding it painful to take a shower due to the sensation of the water on his skin, or finding the scents of deodorant intolerable. Perhaps the clothes he is wearing are comfortable and so be doesn't want to change them. Or maybe the pressure from having everything tried upon him is too much.

As you will realise, you cannot force him to simply go along with your preferences for him. But understanding what makes it difficult for him could be helpful in and of itself. There are no guarantees, but it could lead to even a partial resolution.  For example, if scents and showing are intolerable, he may manage washing the essential body parts with plain water, having enough comfortable items of clothing available could make it possible to change them at an agreed frequency so that residual body odour on clothing is minimised.

In the absence of other responses I have shared my thoughts in an attempt to be helpful. I do not have children, but I have been a 14 year old (and now an adult) who does not simply accept being told what to do and who has found it useful when someone attempts to understand me and not compel me to follow their agenda.