Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there, I joined as I need some guidance, I love my partner very much who has Aspergers. The only issue I find difficult is that he starts fights with me non stop and takes so much energy to reassure. He is controlling, suspicious and jealous.
Mostly I am patient but 10% of the time I get annoyed as he is so controlling and I find it hard to breathe. (not literally)
His outbursts then become uncontrollable and although he is never ever violent he is emotionally volatile and its impacting my career and health, I am a very social person and my career also requires me to socialise,
90% of the time we are so happy and love each other so much, is there medication that may help him calm down? I dont wish to drug his personality which is ace, he is amazing and so very clever, honest and kind but I am so tired of these patterns.
Can you help?
Thanks
We usually use the word melt down on here. It is a loss of controll, due usually to external circumstances. Sensory overload and accumulating stress cause this in adults. I have been told that I over-react to things, but it is usually a case of "the straw that broke the camels back".
I have learned recently, since I came off medication, that I must walk away before totally exploding and allow my self space and time to calm down. I then write down what is troubling me, before discussing it as calmly as possible. I liken myself to a volcano. After a certain point, I lose control.
If I do lose control, I feel embarrassed later and try to appologise.
Medication turned me into an overweight zombie.