Does he behave that way becuase he is just a kid?

Hi all, I just wanted to introduce myself to the community - it is a daunting new world for me (and no doubt many others!). Laughing

My child has just been accepted on the assessment pathway for a formal diagnosis, but its pretty clear what the conclusion will be. However, I wanted to post the question:

Does he behave in the way he does (often pushing my buttons) becuase he is likely to have Aspergers, or just becuase he is a 9 year old child? Does anyone else have this query mulling around in their heads? I try not to label him, but I can't always tell which it is.

I'm often told I am too lenient on him, discipline wise, becuase I believe he has a condition...I'm not so sure...more often this is said by my husband (who is not my child's father). 

I would welcome any feedback on any of the above - my head it is a spin!Undecided