Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,
Just wanted to say a quick hello, since I'm newly diagnosed and finding it tough. I had no idea I was different!! I feel like I'm the only AS person who was clueless that they weren't "normal"
My husband finds it difficult communicating with me, and he did some online research and found that Asperger's was a good fit. Just had it officially diagnosed last month. It left me feeling pretty shocked! But all the pieces make sense now, having been described as 'hard work' when I was a kid and with problems sleeping.
The consultant said that I hide it well, but that all falls apart when I have a temper meltdown Does anyone else suffer with these? Do you have any advice on how my NT partner and myself can handle these? I lose perspective and my tone becomes snappy.
We're based in East Anglia but there aren't many groups listed locally. Any advice you have on an AS/NT partnership would be much appreciated! It can literally be like we're speaking different languages!
Thank you in advance
I can identify with "becoming snappy". I am undiagnosed and had 20 years on medication for depression and anxiety, which suppressed my meltdowns. I no longer take medication, and have had to explain to my long suffering hubby, that certain things just wind me up unbearably and that life is calmer if he gives me the space I need. He told me at first that this was "demanding" behaviour, but he has read a bit about it now and is giving me the space I need. I am more difficult to live with than many, but I try to make up for it where I can, by doing those things that I know please him. We reached 40 years this year, I guess I found a truly amazing person.