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Hi, im late diagnosed autistic and i moved area, to a supported environment, however, there is noone that i feel comfortable being close friends with.   Im really at a loss at the moment.   Im past middle age and im not sure what to share here.    Im feeling stressed.    Ive tried talking to a support worker but i think they are writing it off as a mental health issue but i disagree.   Theres no links to organisations connected to neurodivergence.

I hope to chat with others on the forum and learn more about things that are helpful.   Thank you for taking the time to respond if youre able to reply or share any thoughts.

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  • Hi friend!

    Sorry you're having a tough time. sometimes it is hard to say, but I usually try to explain to people around me that I rely on for support, be it a boss, a coworker, a family member, a professor, that I am autistic, and this means that x, y, and z are hard for me. It's a bit up front for many, but sometimes the only way to get them to tell you what they think is going on is by straight up asking them.

    If you're in a place that hosts events, try going to activities and existing in the same space as people. I've found neurotypicals often think of that as bonding, even if you're just sitting there beside them. Try finding people you can talk to while you do an activity—i've also found bonding over doing things easier than just sitting at tables looking at each other.

    Not sure if this helped, but we're here for you no matter what.

  • in reply to maxlinger60

    Hi maxlinger60, thank you for writing and your understanding and thoughtful reply.   I do like the idea of being more direct, though i was today about something and felt it bothered the person i was talking to.   I still find it difficult to be specific about my needs to people im with.   Thanks for your suggestion to join an activity.   I appreciate your kindness.

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  • in reply to maxlinger60

    Hi maxlinger60, thank you for writing and your understanding and thoughtful reply.   I do like the idea of being more direct, though i was today about something and felt it bothered the person i was talking to.   I still find it difficult to be specific about my needs to people im with.   Thanks for your suggestion to join an activity.   I appreciate your kindness.

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