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Loz12

Hi, I’m new here. I’m 30 and suspect that I am neurodivergent (I’m not sure exactly what my diagnosis would be, I have been on waiting lists for assessment for 2 and a half years) 

I’m tired of merely existing but most of the time, I feel that’s all I am capable of. Why does it take maximum effort and energy for me to just be a person? l hope this makes sense to someone.

Anyway, I am currently working my fifth Admin job and (as with the four previous) I feel my time here is coming to an end. I always come to a point where it becomes almost unbearable to go to work and play pretend with my colleagues and I end up leaving my job. I have this feeling (maybe more of a hope) that I am destined for more than being trapped in an office day in day out, with people I don’t have anything in common with. However, i don’t know what I’m destined to do or how I get there, nor how to find “my people”.

I have tried studying for qualifications that could broaden my horizon, but that usually ends with me being put off the job I thought I wanted, or dropping out (either because I’m bored or overwhelmed I can’t work out which?) 

Does anyone here have any similar feelings or experiences surrounding work and figuring out what you should be doing (aside from just floating around attempting to function in society)?

Thanks in advance x

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  • Hello and welcome, I'm new here as well so I don't know how much help I'll be. 

    I'm 27 and undiagnosed, but am likely neurodivergent in some ways as well. With regards to your situation and your questions, I recognise the feelings and experiences having experienced similar situations myself. I've never actually worked a job, never reaching that stage, and have been on Universal Credit since I finished school. 

    Every time I talk about doing something to better my situation, it usually falls through right as I reach the stage where I should begin doing something, because doing it feels too difficult and I feel like I will fail at it anyway so why bother. I fully understand the feeling of just floating around attempting to function, and living day to day unsure of how to do what you're 'supposed to'.

    With regards to advice, I'm not sure how much help I'll be given that I am struggling with that myself. I wouldn't feel comfortable offering advice that'll probably end up making things worse for you in someway or another, so I'll just say that using this forum and asking the question is probably the best way to start.

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  • Hello and welcome, I'm new here as well so I don't know how much help I'll be. 

    I'm 27 and undiagnosed, but am likely neurodivergent in some ways as well. With regards to your situation and your questions, I recognise the feelings and experiences having experienced similar situations myself. I've never actually worked a job, never reaching that stage, and have been on Universal Credit since I finished school. 

    Every time I talk about doing something to better my situation, it usually falls through right as I reach the stage where I should begin doing something, because doing it feels too difficult and I feel like I will fail at it anyway so why bother. I fully understand the feeling of just floating around attempting to function, and living day to day unsure of how to do what you're 'supposed to'.

    With regards to advice, I'm not sure how much help I'll be given that I am struggling with that myself. I wouldn't feel comfortable offering advice that'll probably end up making things worse for you in someway or another, so I'll just say that using this forum and asking the question is probably the best way to start.

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