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Just diagnosed at 62

Dave22

Although I always felt different, I assumed that I should be able to work through it, in 2008 due to issues at work my boss asked if I thought I could have Aspergers syndrome.

So read Tony Atwood's the complete guide to Asperger's Syndrome and my jaw dropped in recognition,- Not that I endorse Asperger, but my journey is was it is.

Back then robust diagnosis was not available in my area, so went on the waiting list 4years ago and got diagnosed, waiting for ADHD assessment now under right to choose.

I would love to be positive about having an ASC but the truth is I really hate it, which is silly, but it is also how I feel.

My condition has messed up my life and brought me great humiliation, and romantic/ sexual failure.

For me the things that I like about me that are likely due to my neurodiversity, are far outweighed by the negatives.

That's my truth and now that's out of the way, my special interests are daydreaming whilst twisting strimmer cable, The Stranglers rock band, Miki Berenyi, Cthulhu Mythos.

Researching various topics on youtube.

Anyone find that because they avoid talking too much about special interests, those interests wane a little?

The YouTube creator I'm autistic, now what? mentions a scientific ppaape that states that stimming is essential for an Autistic persons mental health, so I now Stim when safe to do so :-)

and feel better for it.

All the best

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  • Hi Dave and welcome.

    Like Oscar, I'm in my 70s and recently diagnosed. The research I engaged in to reach the point of seeking diagnosis made sense of so much of my life. Siure, there are things I wish I was better at, like socialising, but it is what it is. I've never been good with regretting stuff because I can't do anything about it. worse, regrets make me feel bad, so I shy away from going down that route. I had a a few years around 20-22 when a bad burnout brought up a load of stuff from childhood that left me angry and I don't want to go down into that pit again, so I concentrate on the present.

    To be honest, I'm so happy that being autistic means that I'm not the whole bundle of failures I thought I was, but just wired differently. It removes my guilt and shame, which is worth (to me) all the difficulties.

    I've been retraining talking about many of my special interests all my life without them waning. The interent has been a boon because I can always find speciaI interest groups that enable me to indulge another. Maybe not the way I want, but at least it's something. 

    My stims are sufficiently low-level that I can get away with them in company without comments. Just as well because I'm not even aware I'm doing it half the time. 

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  • Hi Dave and welcome.

    Like Oscar, I'm in my 70s and recently diagnosed. The research I engaged in to reach the point of seeking diagnosis made sense of so much of my life. Siure, there are things I wish I was better at, like socialising, but it is what it is. I've never been good with regretting stuff because I can't do anything about it. worse, regrets make me feel bad, so I shy away from going down that route. I had a a few years around 20-22 when a bad burnout brought up a load of stuff from childhood that left me angry and I don't want to go down into that pit again, so I concentrate on the present.

    To be honest, I'm so happy that being autistic means that I'm not the whole bundle of failures I thought I was, but just wired differently. It removes my guilt and shame, which is worth (to me) all the difficulties.

    I've been retraining talking about many of my special interests all my life without them waning. The interent has been a boon because I can always find speciaI interest groups that enable me to indulge another. Maybe not the way I want, but at least it's something. 

    My stims are sufficiently low-level that I can get away with them in company without comments. Just as well because I'm not even aware I'm doing it half the time. 

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