Hi Everyone.
Been recently diagnose with ADHD and Autism, I am still processing what has happened and trying to gather as much information so I can understand what is going on in my brain.
Even at 32 I do feel a bit lonely , hoping to make friends here too.
all the best
John
Hey, I understand a lot of what you are feeling. I am 45 and have only recently been diagnosed with both autism and ADHD. For me, the diagnoses have been—and still are—both a blessing and a challenge.
For the first time, I understood that I was not broken, crazy or inadequate. For most of my life, I struggled with how people perceived me. I went through different therapies and counselling, but somehow nobody—including the person closest to me—was able to explain what was happening inside me.
The answer eventually came from the most unexpected place. My daughter was diagnosed when she was seven, and this led me to begin my own very long process of assessment, diagnosis and finding the right medication.
Gradually, things started becoming clearer. ADHD medication helped me begin finishing some of the projects I had spent my life starting. Journalling has also been one of the most helpful things for me. I now write every day about situations, how I felt, what I did, what other people did, and the facts of what actually happened. I then try to understand the deeper patterns behind my reactions and relationships.
CBT reframing techniques have been particularly useful. I use an NHS programme called SilverCloud, which has helped me reconsider some of my experiences and gradually remove the shame and stigma I had attached to them.
I will not bore you with the three-dimensional, fully interactive , with movable nodes representing each post, map of my mind, with diagnostic section, and statistical analisis, that can compare different time frames:) haha that I created—but I genuinely had fun making it!
Most importantly, I now feel closer to myself than I ever have before. I am more compassionate, understanding and less judgemental towards myself. I am beginning to understand who I am and which values and virtues genuinely matter to me.
Those values were always present, but I did not previously have the confidence to stand up for what I believed was right or wrong. I often treated other people’s opinions as more important than my own.
This process has taken time. Some of my relationships have changed, and I have had to establish stronger boundaries with people who found it difficult to accept the changes in me. The same has been true at work.
But the main lesson I have learned is simple: there is something valuable inside you that may have been misunderstood or hidden for a very long time. Your diagnosis does not change who you are—it gives you a new way of understanding who you have always been.
Now it is time to discover that person. :) - (do small steps, trippy-toe )
Hey, I understand a lot of what you are feeling. I am 45 and have only recently been diagnosed with both autism and ADHD. For me, the diagnoses have been—and still are—both a blessing and a challenge.
For the first time, I understood that I was not broken, crazy or inadequate. For most of my life, I struggled with how people perceived me. I went through different therapies and counselling, but somehow nobody—including the person closest to me—was able to explain what was happening inside me.
The answer eventually came from the most unexpected place. My daughter was diagnosed when she was seven, and this led me to begin my own very long process of assessment, diagnosis and finding the right medication.
Gradually, things started becoming clearer. ADHD medication helped me begin finishing some of the projects I had spent my life starting. Journalling has also been one of the most helpful things for me. I now write every day about situations, how I felt, what I did, what other people did, and the facts of what actually happened. I then try to understand the deeper patterns behind my reactions and relationships.
CBT reframing techniques have been particularly useful. I use an NHS programme called SilverCloud, which has helped me reconsider some of my experiences and gradually remove the shame and stigma I had attached to them.
I will not bore you with the three-dimensional, fully interactive , with movable nodes representing each post, map of my mind, with diagnostic section, and statistical analisis, that can compare different time frames:) haha that I created—but I genuinely had fun making it!
Most importantly, I now feel closer to myself than I ever have before. I am more compassionate, understanding and less judgemental towards myself. I am beginning to understand who I am and which values and virtues genuinely matter to me.
Those values were always present, but I did not previously have the confidence to stand up for what I believed was right or wrong. I often treated other people’s opinions as more important than my own.
This process has taken time. Some of my relationships have changed, and I have had to establish stronger boundaries with people who found it difficult to accept the changes in me. The same has been true at work.
But the main lesson I have learned is simple: there is something valuable inside you that may have been misunderstood or hidden for a very long time. Your diagnosis does not change who you are—it gives you a new way of understanding who you have always been.
Now it is time to discover that person. :) - (do small steps, trippy-toe )
