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Diagnosed at 27 and struggling

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Hello! I’m Jodie and I was diagnosed with Autism at 27. I have struggled with social skills and fitting in all my life and this helped me understand that. I am now 28 nearly 29 and seem to be struggling more than ever! I struggle massively with working, I work full time and it drains me so much, I cry on the way to work every morning because I am so anxious, the small talk, the masking, the environment, the recovery time - it’s all too much! I struggle with life in general, communicating, emotions, everything seems so hard every day and I don’t know where to turn! I am planning on applying for PIP and finding a part time job but due to living alone I have bills to pay. 

Is there anyone who is open for a chat or any advice? Or is this autistic life and I need to find out what works. 

Thanks 

Jodie Blush 

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  • Hi Jodie, I'm 29 and I am autistic- like you I was relatively late diagnosed at 25. I can relate to a lot of what you mention - I am currently struggling a lot with my health and with working - I am currently doing a PhD but am seriously considering quitting. I think it is good you are looking into ways to reduce the workload. I sacrificed my health for years for my work and it's just not worth it. It's so hard to accept and I always feel that if others can do it why can't I but I think being autistic can make things more challenging. I haven't manage to take the step yet where I prioritise my wellbeing but I am working on it. It's very hard to make these things work in practice- like you say there are all kinds of considerations including financially. I can also relate to not fitting in- I never fit in at school and only found some likeminded people at university and in some of the labs I worked in but in my current workplace I don't have anyone I connect to. It's really hard, but there are likeminded people out there- it can just be really hard to find them but they exist and making friends with them is easy. I don't really have much advice. I just want you to know that you are not alone. Best, Ann 

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  • Hi Jodie, I'm 29 and I am autistic- like you I was relatively late diagnosed at 25. I can relate to a lot of what you mention - I am currently struggling a lot with my health and with working - I am currently doing a PhD but am seriously considering quitting. I think it is good you are looking into ways to reduce the workload. I sacrificed my health for years for my work and it's just not worth it. It's so hard to accept and I always feel that if others can do it why can't I but I think being autistic can make things more challenging. I haven't manage to take the step yet where I prioritise my wellbeing but I am working on it. It's very hard to make these things work in practice- like you say there are all kinds of considerations including financially. I can also relate to not fitting in- I never fit in at school and only found some likeminded people at university and in some of the labs I worked in but in my current workplace I don't have anyone I connect to. It's really hard, but there are likeminded people out there- it can just be really hard to find them but they exist and making friends with them is easy. I don't really have much advice. I just want you to know that you are not alone. Best, Ann 

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