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Hello. Are there any people here who were born in the 70s and 80s, always different, now diagnosed with high-functioning autism? Like me?

AnnMarilena

I'm almost 50 years old, and I've always felt I was different. Even in preschool, at the age of three, I felt it clearly. But it wasn't a problem for me. I functioned very well. I asked my mother why the children at preschool were different from me. She didn't understand my questions. So I decided she was different too. As if it were natural that most people are different from me, although I don't know why. But I never wanted to be like those others, even at three or four years old. In a sense, I felt they were a separate species, even though they looked the same. To simplify a bit – like a dog and a cat. Both species, in a simplified description, have the same physical characteristics: fur, four legs, a tail, ears... But they're different species. And that's normal. That's how I felt in preschool. After that, it was different.

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  • I was born in late 80's. I felt similar in pre school. I was sure, there is noone like me in this world. I was always different and loner. It hurt a lot. I always wanted to be like others. Maybe it's because I was criticised a lot. I'm not officially diagnosed,  only suspected. 

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    I am the mum/carer for my son, born in the late 80s and diagnosed at 30 with high functioning Asperger's.  He too was different and a loner.  He still feels lonely now and is hurt that he is not like others.  He has mild learning difficulties too.  However, despite getting down or having meltdowns, he works and has his own house, so going into work helps combat the lonliness.  He would love to have a partner but struggles with social flirting, as it doesn’t come naturally.  He sees his siblings with partners and children and really wants that too.  I don’t know how to help with that.  During the last year, he has joined a club where there are people of all ages and some on the spectrum.  He feels safe there and isn’t judged.  It’s been a lifeline.  He recognises others are like him, that his brain is wired differently, but is sad that he hasn’t had better chances of earning more so that he can progress

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    I am the mum/carer for my son, born in the late 80s and diagnosed at 30 with high functioning Asperger's.  He too was different and a loner.  He still feels lonely now and is hurt that he is not like others.  He has mild learning difficulties too.  However, despite getting down or having meltdowns, he works and has his own house, so going into work helps combat the lonliness.  He would love to have a partner but struggles with social flirting, as it doesn’t come naturally.  He sees his siblings with partners and children and really wants that too.  I don’t know how to help with that.  During the last year, he has joined a club where there are people of all ages and some on the spectrum.  He feels safe there and isn’t judged.  It’s been a lifeline.  He recognises others are like him, that his brain is wired differently, but is sad that he hasn’t had better chances of earning more so that he can progress

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