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Diagnosed yesterday with autism aged 60

Randa

I’m 60 years of age just diagnosed yesterday. I feel lost, angry and let down over the life I should have had. But mostly I have 6 grandchildren all on the spectrum and I feel to blame for it. How do I deal with all these emotions?

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  • I was diagnosed last year at the age of 57, yes I have and do experience all the emotions you mention. I have spent a long time reframing practically my whole life. I’m only just starting to realise that non of it was my fault. A diagnosis seems to make many autistic people reframe life, I still feel anger over events in my school years, I also try to forgive as they knew no better, even the teachers knew nothing of autism.

    Don’t blame yourself for your grandchildren being autistic, your autism most probably comes from one of your ancestors, it often doesn’t take long to workout who it was, it’s no one’s fault.

    One thing I have noticed is the  world believes  only children are autistic, I wonder what they think happens to them? It’s reassuring that adults are now being diagnosed in larger numbers, we aren’t being over diagnosed, whole generations never had a chance. One thing I promised myself when I realised I’m autistic was, if I hopefully have 20 good years left, then they must count.

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  • I was diagnosed last year at the age of 57, yes I have and do experience all the emotions you mention. I have spent a long time reframing practically my whole life. I’m only just starting to realise that non of it was my fault. A diagnosis seems to make many autistic people reframe life, I still feel anger over events in my school years, I also try to forgive as they knew no better, even the teachers knew nothing of autism.

    Don’t blame yourself for your grandchildren being autistic, your autism most probably comes from one of your ancestors, it often doesn’t take long to workout who it was, it’s no one’s fault.

    One thing I have noticed is the  world believes  only children are autistic, I wonder what they think happens to them? It’s reassuring that adults are now being diagnosed in larger numbers, we aren’t being over diagnosed, whole generations never had a chance. One thing I promised myself when I realised I’m autistic was, if I hopefully have 20 good years left, then they must count.

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