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Im late diagnosed Audhd. I have to spend a lot of time with my Mum now, ive told her my diagnosis and tried to explain some things and she says she wants to understand but doesn't take any of it in. I think part of it is she doesn't want to acknowledge it because she sees it as a failing to her that I am it/she didn't help me as a child/she can't help me now.

She seems to have a lot of empathy for others but won't accept it with me. Is it that she's elderly and its simply too much for her to process now and I should just give up and bite my tongue when she comments on my behaviour? She does not have dementia or anything like that but also not quite her former self. Are there any concise books I could show her that may help her understand so we don't clash so much.

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  • We get this a lot in the LGBTQ community, people are really cool about gay and trans people, so long as none of us actually appear in their family! 

    It is often attributed to being a generational thing but I disagree and my experience backs this up. My mum was 94 when she died in 2019 and supported me through everything despite many of my choices not being ones she would make, my wife’s parents however, both younger were explicit about them not believing in gay marriage. 

    People are either kind and accepting or cruel and narrow minded. This is my experience and not a judgement beyond the people I know personally 

    best wishes

    Alice

  • in reply to Alice-nice-Alice

    I think its easy to accept anything when she sees it as other people, not connected to her, but yes Ive always felt unaccepted in a lot of ways. Its just not so easy to walk away currently and if I dont find something to help then nothing will be improved. Thank you for the truth bomb, I know it deep down but Ive had to ignore that my whole life.

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  • in reply to Alice-nice-Alice

    I think its easy to accept anything when she sees it as other people, not connected to her, but yes Ive always felt unaccepted in a lot of ways. Its just not so easy to walk away currently and if I dont find something to help then nothing will be improved. Thank you for the truth bomb, I know it deep down but Ive had to ignore that my whole life.

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