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Recent ASD & ADHD diagnosis aged 58

goesbysteve

Hi,

I’ve always felt strange and like an alien. But having no idea why it’s led to a lifetime of shame, resentment, anxiety and depression. I’ve had a successful career in software engineering but often been fired or selected for redundancy due to difficulties at work and with interpersonal relationships. I’m relying on a day a week working for a local company here in rural mid-Wales. To this point I’ve blamed myself or others around me for difficulties which makes me unhappy trusting others or myself.

It was only when  I met my sister-I’m-law whose son has autism, ADHD and dyspraxia. She had retrained as a specialist teaching assistant after her son’s diagnosis and recognised traits in me. Only took me 15years to get around to my own diagnosis. Now I have it I’m unsure how to feel or be. It all feels a bit unreal whilst also explaining many things about how I am.

I have been recommended some books to help me understand myself better and to develop some more gentle coping strategies. I would be very happy to. hear about any others, particularly for dual diagnosis or AuDHD.

About me,

I grew up in the 70/80s and love the era for film and music.

I am an avid reader or sci-fi, fantasy and cosmic horror.

I enjoy table top role playing games and boardgames. Though I often end up playing solo versions. I do enjoy the odd group game.

I have a huge interest in railways, history and retro 80s computers. Including designing and building homebrew 8/16bit computers from individual integrated circuits.

Happy to talk to others in similar situations.

all the best,

Steve

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  • I'm probably pretty similar to you, just a few years younger..

    I was diagnosed around 6 months with ASD.

    Although I worked out that I had something going on about 20 years ago.

    I have had a fairly successful IT Analysis career split between Software Testing and Data Analysis in the finance sector.

    I can relate to the difficulties in retaining roles, the corporate world is pretty hostile to ND people. I got my diagnosis to protect my current role.

    I don't read as much as I used to. Mainly because I have sleep issues that I'm trying to fix. I have an interest in Sci-Fi, fantasy and yes I've read Lovecraft too, among other more practical interests.

    I do indulge in retro gaming, mainly Atari 2600, Amiga and a few of the 8/16 bit consoles.

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  • I'm probably pretty similar to you, just a few years younger..

    I was diagnosed around 6 months with ASD.

    Although I worked out that I had something going on about 20 years ago.

    I have had a fairly successful IT Analysis career split between Software Testing and Data Analysis in the finance sector.

    I can relate to the difficulties in retaining roles, the corporate world is pretty hostile to ND people. I got my diagnosis to protect my current role.

    I don't read as much as I used to. Mainly because I have sleep issues that I'm trying to fix. I have an interest in Sci-Fi, fantasy and yes I've read Lovecraft too, among other more practical interests.

    I do indulge in retro gaming, mainly Atari 2600, Amiga and a few of the 8/16 bit consoles.

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