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Wanting advice about autism

Georgie20

Hi? I'm new on hete. I am wanting helo and guidance about ky autistic husband.  He gets upset and angry when he doesn't understand what im saying and when the autistic professional said he needs certain autistic headphones, I went onto argos and looked for noise cancelling headphones and ge just shut it down straight away.  Was i wrong to do that? . He also gets mad when he says i dont understsndbhow he is, but ive said to him that does he understand why im upset. Was i wrong to say that, as im struggling with him and ive cried in front of him and be vets mad when I grt upset about my feelings and get mad.  

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  • HI Georgie20.

    You're not wrong - you were just helping. He shut down the headphones because change feels scary to him, like an overload. And asking, 'why I'm upset?' Probably sounded like blame when he's already maxed out. Try softer: 'Need a minute', when you're sad, or 'Only if you want', for stuff like headphones. Give him space if he flares - it's not about you. You're doing great reaching out




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  • HI Georgie20.

    You're not wrong - you were just helping. He shut down the headphones because change feels scary to him, like an overload. And asking, 'why I'm upset?' Probably sounded like blame when he's already maxed out. Try softer: 'Need a minute', when you're sad, or 'Only if you want', for stuff like headphones. Give him space if he flares - it's not about you. You're doing great reaching out




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  • in reply to lostmyway

    I just feel like in failing my husband and my 2 kids. I feel like im a carer to my husband and driving him to work and from work and picking up my kids from nursery and school and then coming and cleaning, doing thr school and also sometimes i feel my mental health is going down day by day. I feel like i can't manage.