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I am a 30 year old female. Diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago and autism this year. I have a partner and a toddler. From the North East.

Since getting my diagnosis ive felt like things have gotten harder, not easier... I struggle to mask. I struggle with my anxiety more and rejection sensetivity. Work is hell. I feel detached from my partner, like every autistic/ADHD trait now annoys them and i feel alone...

I struggle to keep up friendships but i crave friends. Its difficult... 

I just feel like all motivation has left me, i feel lost and just wabt to find myself again.

Im hoping talking to like minded people helps on that journey.

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  • Hi  - welcome to our community and I hope you soon feel comfortable here. Lots of good people with experience to share so have a rummage around and dig in. 

    Thank you for sharing how things are for you. I am 59, male, a fellow Northerner and was diagnosed as AuDHD (autistic + ADHD) last summer. Your second paragraph resonated with my own post-diagnosis experience.

    People here have helped me understand that this pattern is quite common because diagnosis is a jolt to identity, and also can lead to skill regression, masking not working so well and even burnout. But this period is temporary and I have read that things usually settle down within a year. That has given me some hope amid the chaos!

    I have found it important to reduce external demands, be really kind to (and accepting of) myself and try to unlearn my internalised ableism (musts, shoulds) so I can live more authentically. I am still a work in progress, so happy to swap notes with you.

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  • Hi  - welcome to our community and I hope you soon feel comfortable here. Lots of good people with experience to share so have a rummage around and dig in. 

    Thank you for sharing how things are for you. I am 59, male, a fellow Northerner and was diagnosed as AuDHD (autistic + ADHD) last summer. Your second paragraph resonated with my own post-diagnosis experience.

    People here have helped me understand that this pattern is quite common because diagnosis is a jolt to identity, and also can lead to skill regression, masking not working so well and even burnout. But this period is temporary and I have read that things usually settle down within a year. That has given me some hope amid the chaos!

    I have found it important to reduce external demands, be really kind to (and accepting of) myself and try to unlearn my internalised ableism (musts, shoulds) so I can live more authentically. I am still a work in progress, so happy to swap notes with you.

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