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My partner has just been diagnosed

justnj

Hi. My partner (middle-aged trans-man) has just been diagnosed with Autism and I (middle aged non-binary/masc presenting AMB) want to learn how to be a better partner as I feel like at the moment I'm constantly saying the wrong thing when trying to be supportive. HELP!

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  • Hi  and welcome.

    First of all, well done for wanting to support. Many newly diagnosed people face their family questioning or invalidating their experience. Please try to take a bit of pressure off yourself as we are all human and imperfect, just doing our best.

    The other thing I would offer is to be led by your partner - listen carefully, reflect back the way they describe things and maybe research stuff together so you can talk about it. Let them puzzle things out rather than trying to solve stuff for them. Communication is the key and many newly diagnosed people can feel emotional and disoriented for a while. Good luck to you both.

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  • Hi  and welcome.

    First of all, well done for wanting to support. Many newly diagnosed people face their family questioning or invalidating their experience. Please try to take a bit of pressure off yourself as we are all human and imperfect, just doing our best.

    The other thing I would offer is to be led by your partner - listen carefully, reflect back the way they describe things and maybe research stuff together so you can talk about it. Let them puzzle things out rather than trying to solve stuff for them. Communication is the key and many newly diagnosed people can feel emotional and disoriented for a while. Good luck to you both.

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