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The fear of the unknown

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My son is 19months, shows all the signs and characteristics of autism, health professionals agree but cant give diagnosis until sees paediatrician. I already know he has it im just waiting for the diagnosis and my heart is broken. I cant help but blame myself and worry about his future! The not knowing what level or impact it will have on his future and my other child. Is this normal? I find myself crying so frequently right now, am I being silly/selfish? Its all very new to me and my husband, no one in either of our families are neurodivergent or autistic. Please be kind with your comments....

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  • I’m so sorry this is giving you so much worry and distress. I wanted to send you words of comfort and reassurance. Your little boy is so very young and the future is so unknown for any child of his age - none of us can predict the future of any child so young. I have two autistic sons and they are the absolute joy of my life and they are the most wonderful, beautiful people who I feel completely blessed to have in my life. I feel confident that you will very likely feel the same way about your son as he grows and blossoms. Embrace who your son is wholeheartedly - he deserves your unconditional love. Don’t let a diagnosis of autism get in the way of that. Every child is unique, and every child brings unique gifts and their own unique contribution to their family and to the world. It’s going to be ok - autism is not a ‘disaster’ - it brings with it many wonderful aspects to life as well as some challenges. Please don’t worry - just concentrate on giving love to your son and helping him to feel happy and secure. Be in the moment with him - don’t look ahead with imagined fears of things that may never happen. Take care, I’m sure things will be much better than you fear! 

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  • I’m so sorry this is giving you so much worry and distress. I wanted to send you words of comfort and reassurance. Your little boy is so very young and the future is so unknown for any child of his age - none of us can predict the future of any child so young. I have two autistic sons and they are the absolute joy of my life and they are the most wonderful, beautiful people who I feel completely blessed to have in my life. I feel confident that you will very likely feel the same way about your son as he grows and blossoms. Embrace who your son is wholeheartedly - he deserves your unconditional love. Don’t let a diagnosis of autism get in the way of that. Every child is unique, and every child brings unique gifts and their own unique contribution to their family and to the world. It’s going to be ok - autism is not a ‘disaster’ - it brings with it many wonderful aspects to life as well as some challenges. Please don’t worry - just concentrate on giving love to your son and helping him to feel happy and secure. Be in the moment with him - don’t look ahead with imagined fears of things that may never happen. Take care, I’m sure things will be much better than you fear! 

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