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The fear of the unknown

0905

My son is 19months, shows all the signs and characteristics of autism, health professionals agree but cant give diagnosis until sees paediatrician. I already know he has it im just waiting for the diagnosis and my heart is broken. I cant help but blame myself and worry about his future! The not knowing what level or impact it will have on his future and my other child. Is this normal? I find myself crying so frequently right now, am I being silly/selfish? Its all very new to me and my husband, no one in either of our families are neurodivergent or autistic. Please be kind with your comments....

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  • Thank you all for your comments, I am probably snowballing as a parent. I find it hard not to compare my youngest to my oldest child. Like I said, this is all very new to us, and im not saying im an expert however he is getting the support/tests he needs to support a diagnosis. I am of medical background myself so this is not without careful research and observation. I agree, its support for myself as I am finding it difficult but for months my family downplayed his behaviour (but did this out of kindness as they seen the same traits but wanted to try and calm me.. made it worse). He is such a happy little boy as everyone keeps telling me but am I wrong in wishing he didn't show these signs. I am very aware he is young but I do think a mothers intuition should not be disregarded 

  • in reply to 0905
    0905 said:
    I do think a mothers intuition should not be disregarded 

    I agree with you wholeheartedly! Your son is fortunate that you are attentive to his needs. 

    0905 said:
    am I wrong in wishing he didn't show these signs

    People don’t have total control over their hopes for their children and of course you will compare him against the milestones and norms that society has dictated. Acknowledge what you see, feel and hope. Continue to do what you can to support him on the journey he takes. It’s good he is such a happy boy.

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    Thank you for your kind reply. 

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