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Neurodivergent and Never had friends

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I’m 18 years old and male in university. I am intelligent. I have autism and diagnosed ADHD. I have never had a friend in my life (not exaggerating one bit) and am currently completely alone. I see other kids living normal lives around me and I wish I could join in and be happy like them. I can’t talk to people without the usage of amphetamines, benzos, beta blockers, and Pregabalin. Despite my best efforts, I am still alone. I don’t know why people don’t like me, I always try to talk about normal things but still people detect that I am aspy. I have went to social events but always felt left out, invisible. People in my cohort often don’t even want to look at me. I spend my weekends completely alone and go days without talking to people. I am often suicidal. Anyone in a similar situation to me or has any advice?

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  • Hey, I am female and similar to you as I am too 18 and in university.Also I am too autistic and have diagnosed ADHD. 

    I hope to offer you some advice, something that is a bit different than what you hear all the time and to help you understand that you are not alone.

    You say that you are intelligent, I am guessing you mean smart like at uni, measured by test scores and project grades. I am like that too but I also am good at making friends. I did not get diagnosed till my teens so I learned ways to survive in social situations at a young age. To me, social situations are like a puzzle and once you understand the pieces and where they fit , they make sense . People are actually quite predictable and once you see this, you can’t not see it. If you want I can give you tips on how to understand these pieces? 

    I just can’t give the right advice till I know a little bit more about you. Like what your studying in Uni? and what you believe it is that people detect in you that makes them think your an ‘aspy’?

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  • Hey, I am female and similar to you as I am too 18 and in university.Also I am too autistic and have diagnosed ADHD. 

    I hope to offer you some advice, something that is a bit different than what you hear all the time and to help you understand that you are not alone.

    You say that you are intelligent, I am guessing you mean smart like at uni, measured by test scores and project grades. I am like that too but I also am good at making friends. I did not get diagnosed till my teens so I learned ways to survive in social situations at a young age. To me, social situations are like a puzzle and once you understand the pieces and where they fit , they make sense . People are actually quite predictable and once you see this, you can’t not see it. If you want I can give you tips on how to understand these pieces? 

    I just can’t give the right advice till I know a little bit more about you. Like what your studying in Uni? and what you believe it is that people detect in you that makes them think your an ‘aspy’?

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