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Iskis

Hello to everyone. I look forward to reading your posts and learning from you. I have a question ; do any of you feel anger when you are not treated with respect? I am a teacher, and found out today that the person in charge of training new teachers made fun of me in front of the trainee teachers saying that I was "weird " and that her husband worked in the same school as me and that I " didn't understand what was going on half the time;" 

I have been teaching for 37 years, get good results , and more importantly look after my pupils. I am boiling inside. 

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  • Hi there.  I think it's fairly normal for humans to feel anger when they are treated unfairly.  As Autistic people unfairness either to ourselves or others often really burns.

    What this person did was unforgiveable.  Can they really be a trainer/teacher?  Wow!  Their job is to build skills and confidence not to ridicule and undermine.  This person should take a good look at whether they are really suited to their job.

    Mr T is right, if you've got any proof you could try a formal complaint or grievance in line with employer policies.  Even if you don't it is worth raising with your line manager who may be able to say a few words in the right place to put a stop to this bullying.  And it is bullying.  You wouldn't overlook one of the kids in your classroom picking on another like that, and you should not have to put up with it either.

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  • Hi there.  I think it's fairly normal for humans to feel anger when they are treated unfairly.  As Autistic people unfairness either to ourselves or others often really burns.

    What this person did was unforgiveable.  Can they really be a trainer/teacher?  Wow!  Their job is to build skills and confidence not to ridicule and undermine.  This person should take a good look at whether they are really suited to their job.

    Mr T is right, if you've got any proof you could try a formal complaint or grievance in line with employer policies.  Even if you don't it is worth raising with your line manager who may be able to say a few words in the right place to put a stop to this bullying.  And it is bullying.  You wouldn't overlook one of the kids in your classroom picking on another like that, and you should not have to put up with it either.

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  • in reply to Dawn

    Many thanks for taking time to answer. I can prove the allegation, but this would put the teaching students in a difficult position. Her husband was headmaster at the school wher I work, but he retired last June; What's really sad is that I was the one who organised his retirement party.

    I think the fundamental issue here is not the bad behavious from this person, but actually what I choose to do about it.

    I got my diagnosis recently ( two weeks ago !!) and everything is falling into place. I don't think that it's a coincidence that I found out about this bullying as I am processing my diagnosis.

    To all intents and purposes, it's all good if it enables me to take a step back and accept myself finally. I may be weird to others, but i'm perfect for myself.