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Iskis

Hello to everyone. I look forward to reading your posts and learning from you. I have a question ; do any of you feel anger when you are not treated with respect? I am a teacher, and found out today that the person in charge of training new teachers made fun of me in front of the trainee teachers saying that I was "weird " and that her husband worked in the same school as me and that I " didn't understand what was going on half the time;" 

I have been teaching for 37 years, get good results , and more importantly look after my pupils. I am boiling inside. 

  • I'm Guilty, as charged, of being honest at the wrong time. However, I hope you may overcome her ridicule.

    People are fallible. They let us down, when me most need them. But I hope you get treated better, by others.

  • Hello  and welcome to the community.

    I can quite understand your anger to that experience and I would have been angry if it had happened to me.

    It should never have happened in front of anyone or anywhere, but to have happened in front of trainee teachers is inexcusable. It’s a serious offence and a breach of professional teaching standards.

    I’m a retired secondary school teacher and if it had happened within my earshot I would have reported it to the Principal. The Principal should report this to the Board of Governors and I would expect the trainee teachers’ University/Teacher Training College to be notified.

    It mightn’t be an easy thing to report this, but your teaching record is intact and I would be flabbergasted if your Principal didn’t take immediate action. 

  • in reply to Dawn

    Thank you Dawn! I live abroad and work conditions are not brilliant in general. I could go to a Union, but I know the representatives, and it would pour oil on boiling water. It's a small worl here. Alos, to be quite honest, I wouldn't get anywhere as the person is retiring in 6+ months !!

  • in reply to Iskis

    Absolutely, you are perfect for yourself!  I'm glad that's your attitude!

    You in a union?  Might be worth getting their take on what to do.  This person will be in breach of countless policies, if not the law also.

  • in reply to Dawn

    Many thanks for taking time to answer. I can prove the allegation, but this would put the teaching students in a difficult position. Her husband was headmaster at the school wher I work, but he retired last June; What's really sad is that I was the one who organised his retirement party.

    I think the fundamental issue here is not the bad behavious from this person, but actually what I choose to do about it.

    I got my diagnosis recently ( two weeks ago !!) and everything is falling into place. I don't think that it's a coincidence that I found out about this bullying as I am processing my diagnosis.

    To all intents and purposes, it's all good if it enables me to take a step back and accept myself finally. I may be weird to others, but i'm perfect for myself.

  • Hi there.  I think it's fairly normal for humans to feel anger when they are treated unfairly.  As Autistic people unfairness either to ourselves or others often really burns.

    What this person did was unforgiveable.  Can they really be a trainer/teacher?  Wow!  Their job is to build skills and confidence not to ridicule and undermine.  This person should take a good look at whether they are really suited to their job.

    Mr T is right, if you've got any proof you could try a formal complaint or grievance in line with employer policies.  Even if you don't it is worth raising with your line manager who may be able to say a few words in the right place to put a stop to this bullying.  And it is bullying.  You wouldn't overlook one of the kids in your classroom picking on another like that, and you should not have to put up with it either.

  • Hello and welcome.

    Can you prove your allegation with witness or documentary evidence. If so you could make a complaint to that persons employers

  • Hello Iskis

    You're very welcome to the Online Community and I hope you find posting and interacting here fun and helpful.

    I'm sure other members will be able to share their experiences of feeling angry when disrespected. 

    For now I want to highlight our employment web pages which contain advice on dealing with bullying in the workplace and what the law says about your rights at work: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/employment 

    Kind regards,

    Sharon Mod