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Hello, looking for like-minded people

NeurodivergentMind

Hello,

I’ll openly admit it: I have no friends. I’m picturing myself sitting in a circle of people confessing the same, maybe we could call it the “No Friends Circle of Trust.” Haha.

This post is for anyone who might be in the same boat but doesn’t feel comfortable saying it out loud. As adults, admitting you have no friends can make people assume there must be a negative reason, that you’re unfriendly, unkind, or “the problem.” In my experience, that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Speaking for myself, I often find I give more than I get back. Don’t get me wrong, I never give just to receive but when you notice a pattern where people take advantage of your generosity, you start to pull away from friendships altogether.

I don’t struggle to talk to people, but small talk makes me deeply uncomfortable, and meaningful conversations don’t always seem to be what people are looking for. So, I often find myself listening more than speaking. On the plus side, I’m an excellent listener which feels like an underrated superpower.

If you value honesty, humour, and conversations that go a little deeper than the weather, I’d really like to connect with you here.

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  • I like that, No Friends Circle of Trust, although I do have a couple of friends, I relate to what you've said. I've often wondered what a meet up would be like? Would we all sit there in silence being awkward or would we split off into related special interest groups, would some of us, mostly female memebers walk around on the edges of other groups looking in and seeming to interact without actually doing so?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    If no one wore a badge, then most would sit around on their own watching the others wondering who they were. If someone had the courage to speak a few might engage. The test might jealously watch.

    Some would just look in the doors, be too scared to enter, then fret, then walk off, then regret it, try to come back, get annoyed with themselves then go away. They'd feel better that afternoon. But regret it the next day.

    If people wore a badge, people would feel very self-conscious, but if people knew who they would talk to first and arranged if beforehand, it would work quite well. It runs the risk of creating cliques, but people hovering nearby need to be invited in. Someone just needs to take ownership.

    It is not in impossible. You just have to be able to endure some discomfort for a short while at the start a try not to latch onto one person for the whole day.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    If no one wore a badge, then most would sit around on their own watching the others wondering who they were. If someone had the courage to speak a few might engage. The test might jealously watch.

    Some would just look in the doors, be too scared to enter, then fret, then walk off, then regret it, try to come back, get annoyed with themselves then go away. They'd feel better that afternoon. But regret it the next day.

    If people wore a badge, people would feel very self-conscious, but if people knew who they would talk to first and arranged if beforehand, it would work quite well. It runs the risk of creating cliques, but people hovering nearby need to be invited in. Someone just needs to take ownership.

    It is not in impossible. You just have to be able to endure some discomfort for a short while at the start a try not to latch onto one person for the whole day.

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