Hello, looking for like-minded people

Hello,

I’ll openly admit it: I have no friends. I’m picturing myself sitting in a circle of people confessing the same, maybe we could call it the “No Friends Circle of Trust.” Haha.

This post is for anyone who might be in the same boat but doesn’t feel comfortable saying it out loud. As adults, admitting you have no friends can make people assume there must be a negative reason, that you’re unfriendly, unkind, or “the problem.” In my experience, that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Speaking for myself, I often find I give more than I get back. Don’t get me wrong, I never give just to receive but when you notice a pattern where people take advantage of your generosity, you start to pull away from friendships altogether.

I don’t struggle to talk to people, but small talk makes me deeply uncomfortable, and meaningful conversations don’t always seem to be what people are looking for. So, I often find myself listening more than speaking. On the plus side, I’m an excellent listener which feels like an underrated superpower.

If you value honesty, humour, and conversations that go a little deeper than the weather, I’d really like to connect with you here.

Parents
  • Hello, I like your post. 
    im new here and also relate to the struggle of friendship. I really like deep conversation and I too usually give more (sometimes too much) and listen a lot. I’m musical, creative and enjoy piano, art, photography and anything nature / outdoors’y. 

    im also hoping to meet a friend, but not superficially, something that will hopefully build into a really nice friendship, to connect with someone who ‘gets it’ without having to over explain. 

    Hopefully hear from you soon. Slight smile

    John. 

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  • Hello, I like your post. 
    im new here and also relate to the struggle of friendship. I really like deep conversation and I too usually give more (sometimes too much) and listen a lot. I’m musical, creative and enjoy piano, art, photography and anything nature / outdoors’y. 

    im also hoping to meet a friend, but not superficially, something that will hopefully build into a really nice friendship, to connect with someone who ‘gets it’ without having to over explain. 

    Hopefully hear from you soon. Slight smile

    John. 

Children
  • Hi John,

    Lovely to hear from you, and I really appreciate your message. Slight smile

    I love the art of the piano, unfortunately, I can’t play, but I still really enjoy listening to it. I did get the chance to play the cornet and trombone as a child, so I have some musical memories!

    The artistic part of my brain is definitely active, so I completely relate to finding joy in art, photography, music, and similar creative outlets.

    The outdoors is wonderful for the mind. I’d love to go on more explorative walks or hikes, like in the Peak District, though I wouldn’t feel comfortable going alone. Knowing me, I’d probably have an accident, and no one would be around.

    It’s really nice to see that we’re both looking for the same kind of meaningful connection.