Son 15 got diagnosed 4 weeks ago

Hi, my son got diagnosed 4 weeks ago and I have just received the ADOS report. It was hard to read as we had alway suspected but now we know I am full of guilt that we should have got him assessed earlier and got him the help he needs. He is high functioning and currently very depressed and says he is sad all the time. He has now got an appointment with a psychiatrist  as he has suicidal thoughts. He also has a session with a SLT this week to help him understand what his diagnosis means to him. We also need to find him a psychologist to help him with his MH. Trying to build a MDT around him but it just seems very difficult. He is currently very angry and unfortunately most of his frustrations lands on me. He is such a sweet, kind and considerate boy but I feel I’m losing him to his frustration and anger. He is now very argumentative and lacks patience particularly with me so it is difficult for me to talk to him. I heard him going to the toilette tonight and I checked if he was ok. He told me if he wanted to kill himself he could do it in his room and didn’t need to go the bathroom. He said he has no sympathy or empathy and doesn’t care. Sorry I am just rambling but just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through similar and whether they had any advice. thanks 

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  • You are a good and caring parent! You support your son. I used to have terrible aggressive outbursts (meltdowns) and suicidal ideation as a teen. I remember how I managed the meltdowns- learned to recognise tge moment and situations that it's coming but before I lost control,  and isolated myself from the situation physically and mentally.  It was extremely hard. I don't remember how I managed the suicidal ideation. 

    Maybe if he had some contact to peers like him, it could help? If there is such a group in your area?

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  • You are a good and caring parent! You support your son. I used to have terrible aggressive outbursts (meltdowns) and suicidal ideation as a teen. I remember how I managed the meltdowns- learned to recognise tge moment and situations that it's coming but before I lost control,  and isolated myself from the situation physically and mentally.  It was extremely hard. I don't remember how I managed the suicidal ideation. 

    Maybe if he had some contact to peers like him, it could help? If there is such a group in your area?

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