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Son 15 got diagnosed 4 weeks ago

zany_uk

Hi, my son got diagnosed 4 weeks ago and I have just received the ADOS report. It was hard to read as we had alway suspected but now we know I am full of guilt that we should have got him assessed earlier and got him the help he needs. He is high functioning and currently very depressed and says he is sad all the time. He has now got an appointment with a psychiatrist  as he has suicidal thoughts. He also has a session with a SLT this week to help him understand what his diagnosis means to him. We also need to find him a psychologist to help him with his MH. Trying to build a MDT around him but it just seems very difficult. He is currently very angry and unfortunately most of his frustrations lands on me. He is such a sweet, kind and considerate boy but I feel I’m losing him to his frustration and anger. He is now very argumentative and lacks patience particularly with me so it is difficult for me to talk to him. I heard him going to the toilette tonight and I checked if he was ok. He told me if he wanted to kill himself he could do it in his room and didn’t need to go the bathroom. He said he has no sympathy or empathy and doesn’t care. Sorry I am just rambling but just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through similar and whether they had any advice. thanks 

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  • You did what you thought was best, which is all you can do. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, if only you could have in advance.

    What would you have changed if you'd known? If he has done fine academically, maybe nothing.

    A psychologist or counsellor is probably more helpful than a psychiatrist, but they will advise.

    You spend a great deal of effort trying to be normal and fit in, to then find no matter how hard you tried it didn't matter is hard. If you are not sure what it all means it makes it harder. He no doubt has preconceptions. It is not that easy to accept.

    Also exams are coming up and pressure is what causes the emotional and psychological dysregulation. He will most likely settle down if he has as a chance to talk through the things that are bothering him.

    At that age is used to sometimes think it would be easier if I was dead, but then I nearly died when I was 10, it was in the cold war, things weren't easy and I was isolated.

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  • You did what you thought was best, which is all you can do. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, if only you could have in advance.

    What would you have changed if you'd known? If he has done fine academically, maybe nothing.

    A psychologist or counsellor is probably more helpful than a psychiatrist, but they will advise.

    You spend a great deal of effort trying to be normal and fit in, to then find no matter how hard you tried it didn't matter is hard. If you are not sure what it all means it makes it harder. He no doubt has preconceptions. It is not that easy to accept.

    Also exams are coming up and pressure is what causes the emotional and psychological dysregulation. He will most likely settle down if he has as a chance to talk through the things that are bothering him.

    At that age is used to sometimes think it would be easier if I was dead, but then I nearly died when I was 10, it was in the cold war, things weren't easy and I was isolated.

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