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New here, and newly diagnosed

Lindyloo

Hello all

Newly diagnosed. Already Mum to a lad (20) who was dx'd at 8. Today I got my dx at the ripe old age of 53. It confirmed what I suspected but is it normal to be tearful and somewhat solemn for the younger version of yourself who had to endure so much 'othering', bullying and abuse? I've had so many memory recalls today which have left me feeling absolutely devastated.

I know I can be gentler to myself going forward, but how do you learn to snap out of re-experiencing the traumas of the past as viewed through this new autistic lens?  I feel very raw at the moment, though also relieved that I was never a difficult child - just autistic albeit the term wasn't identified for a long time after.

Thankyou.

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  • Good morning from America LindyLoo!

    Actually yes, that is pretty normal to feel mixed emotions post diagnosis. I felt mostly relief, but a lot of people feel regret, grief, and etc.

    One thing that could potentially help with getting through traumas is to get therapy with someone that has experience with Autistic clientele. It helped me, as I got therapy with an art therapist with Autism experience and it helped me to learn coping strategies that work specifically for me.

    But congratulations on your diagnosis! I know from experience it’s not easy being an Autistic parent to Autistic children, but now that you know it should be easier to know what you need in order to function at your best!

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  • Good morning from America LindyLoo!

    Actually yes, that is pretty normal to feel mixed emotions post diagnosis. I felt mostly relief, but a lot of people feel regret, grief, and etc.

    One thing that could potentially help with getting through traumas is to get therapy with someone that has experience with Autistic clientele. It helped me, as I got therapy with an art therapist with Autism experience and it helped me to learn coping strategies that work specifically for me.

    But congratulations on your diagnosis! I know from experience it’s not easy being an Autistic parent to Autistic children, but now that you know it should be easier to know what you need in order to function at your best!

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