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Anyone have adhd as well as autism?

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Do you find it to be confusing having a mixture of it. The dysregulation?

never being able to say the right this or think the right things and going to fast and brain in constant burnout.

we all have different energy at different times and different days and different moods and different understandings and different assumptions and different reactions and different ways of speaking and different health.

its impossible to get anything right. 
you can try to sleep at 10pm and the neighbours can blast punk music all night and keep you awake

you can become a night owl because of it but your expected to perform during the day in daylight.

its designed to be a mess. 
if you can’t go out when it’s daylight but nothings open at night. 

the brain and life is always messed up. Adapting to everything and everyone is impossible.

My heads messed up.  I can’t tell if people are saying things to wind me up for a reaction or trying help.

NO IDEA WHICH OR BOTH OR ???

CREATES TROUBLE!!!

CREATES A REACTION THAT THEY THEN DONT LIKE Thinking

  • Hello. Have both here. Asperger's diagnosis roughly 8 years ago and ADHD (with almost none of the H part of it) last summer. It is very peculiar how two conditions "compliment" each other. How I must have structure but at the same time being rather disorganise. How I crave new experiences and stimuli but become rigid with certain routines. How I can at the same time long for connection with people but just want ro close up in myself. And yes, trying to talk to people and figure out how to decipher them and what is expected behaviour and such is a neverending quest...

    1. people do not quite understand that we can have both because they can cancel each other out 

  • Sleep deprivation causes a lot of issues, I know firsthand. It makes you oversensitive, confused, and worsens mental spirals. It also messes with hormones, moods, and more.

    This is why you are having problems.

    I'm so sorry you are having trouble. You need to find somewhere quieter if you can. Fixing issues with neighbours is a long process and can end up as a battle of wills. I don't know what to suggest. 

  • I’m autistic and probably AuDHD. I’m on a years long waiting list for an ADHD assessment. 

    I get the tensions and contradictions going on in your brain. I have a battle between a need for order and certainty on one hand, on the other hand a need for novelty that can leave chaos in its trail. I find the messy bits and chaos distressing. 

  • Yes I have both. It can be tough. Brain wants different things - makes it difficult to meet my own needs.

  • in reply to Iain

    So much chaos yet desire for order, I’m ADHD as well as autistic and that sums it up perfectly, I lose everything, hats, gloves, phones, paperwork etc try my best for order but total haphazard chaos is always the end result.

    what a tip the car is, my desk at work, the house 

  • in reply to Deleted User
    Unknown said:
    Society i think designed it to be a mess by building flats instead of individual houses.

    I've lived in quite a few of these too - they are just an adaptation of the big old victorian houses that seem to be in every town, which have been made into more accessible priced, smaller properties.

    The consequences are poor sound insulation and lots of infrastructure issues with plumbing, electrics and heating / condensation.

    Newer flats are often built down to a price to make them cheaper and have the same issues of noise.

    The real culprit is the selfish nature of the tenants though and that is something you can do something about if you have a will to do so. It rarely comes without consequences mind you.

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  • in reply to Iain

    Those where my old neighbours but i left anf moved to another worse situation. 

    Society i think designed it to be a mess by building flats instead of individual houses.

    adhd autism is difficult but im glad you can make it work for you 

    ps , how do you managed to take sections to reply to them? I font know how to do that.

    thanks Iain for the suggestions too. You’re a good sport. Hope you’re having a good weekend. 

  • Unknown said:
    its designed to be a mess.

    Who designed it to be a mess do you think?

    Unknown said:
    you can try to sleep at 10pm and the neighbours can blast punk music all night and keep you awake

    I would say this sounds like the root cause of the issues. In your shoes I would do something about it as it is clearly causing a chain of events that is messing up the rest of your ability to function.

    You may need to get someone to help you this "sorting them out" by whatever means you choose, but in your shoes that would be my go-to solution.

    I would make sure I have a doorbell camera just in case they get spiteful so you can catch them in the act and set the police on them.

    I have a range of the ADHD traits that overlap with autism and it takes a lot of mental discipline to keep them in check.  It makes for an interesting life to have so much chaos yet desire for order going on at the same time, so I tend to go for a structured chaos which I can make work for me.

  • Oh no me personally I don't have ADHD just autism. But I like coffee and stuff I do have mental issues though like anxiety. But it doesn't bother me too much.