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SleepySloth

Hi, I'm a newly diagnosed 35yo woman and at the moment I'm feeling like a fraud. I'm hoping that joining this lovely community will help me become me. I have no idea where to start!

  • There's a Taosit expression that is often quoted: "The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step"

    I learnt, a few years ago now, that is a mis-translation.

    Apparently a better one is: "the journey of a thousand miles begins underneath your feet"

    Cue song from Mary Poppins...

    "Great oaks from little acorns grow..."

    All of these suggest to let yourself and others know where you are now and go from there.

    You've indicated that you feel like a fraud so maybe I can comment on that?   'cos I did too :-)

    hmm.. am I really autistic? maybe I scammed the test? maybe I'm just not this or that?

    So, baby polar bear asks mum - am I really a polar bear? -"yes dear, now I'm preparing a meal, would you like to help?"

    Dad - am I really a polar bear? - "oh yes child - now come do some fishing..."

    Grand dad I am I really a polar bear "oh yes, there's been polar bears in our family for generations, let me tell you about great uncle..."

    Grand ma, am I really a polar bear?  " yes darling, now tell me what is worrying you?"

    Grand ma,   If I'm really a polar bear why am I so fu58ing colld?

    Best wishes and congratulations on your diagnosis  

  • Hi and welcome.

    I'm sorry to hear you feel this way.

    Hopefully if you hang around for long enough you will find the help and support you need to truly find yourself.

    Take care.

    (⁠◍⁠•⁠ᴗ⁠•⁠◍⁠)⁠Heart

  • Hello SleepySloth

    You're very welcome to the Online Community and you're totally entitled to be here and are not in any way a fraud. It's understandable to have intense and complicated emotions after diagnosis. You're not alone in that. 

    It might be helpful for you to check out our After diagnosis resources.

    I hope you enjoy your time here.

    Kind regards

    Sharon Mod

  • Hello,

    When things are under control and you're not too stressed, you feel like a fraud. You wonder what the fuss is about.

    When something catches you out, or things are less good, you don't. And if burnt out, you get easily overwhelmed. 

    Don't worry. If you're felling good, make the most of it.

  • Hello! I'm guessing you're not a fraud. We all have different experiences, different diagnoses, different combinations, and here we are. Welcome!

  • Hello and welcome to the 'Latelings'.

    as Lotus has said we have or still do feel like a fraud especially when dealing with the NTs

  • Hi and welcome to the community. We have all felt like that, don't worry. 

    Hope you enjoy chatting with us