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Diagnosed this year at 38

Naruto_2025

Hi,

I was diagnosed earlier this year. I feel like I may of hit the depression stage of diagnosis. At first I was pleased to be able to understand myself more, to finally feel like there wasn't anything wrong with me. 

A lot of it comes from the lack of care after, In the sense of family almost shrugged it off "you're just you", "would never of guessed you were autistic, you were just you.".

It was instantly forgotten about, never discussed again, no "what can we do to help?"

I'm also struggling to get professional help as I work full time and everything is in the week during the day (Which I get).

Then I'll be so burnt out from work, I can't find the energy to read the information provided to help me. Plus I'll be so completely burnt out that all hobbies that bring me joy are not possible.

Lastly, I haven't learned to unmask. I am work, Husband, Son and who ever i have to adapt around. i honestly wish I could be a hermit for a year, just to shut down and recharge.

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  • Hello,

    I too, was diagnosed at 38 and am still learning about my diagnosis all the time. Have you read the wonderful article in Your Autism magazine on trauma as this really does explain a lot about how we struggle and the harm it causes? I too, had little understanding from my family and have experienced far more from complete strangers. 

  • in reply to LucyLandRover

    I've not read that, I'll give a read thank you.

    My wife does well with her side of the family, I would often get comments of "you ok, you look tired". She's now explained how autistic burnout works. I may look exhausted, non verbal and in "robot mode", but doesn't mean I'm not happy in everyone's company

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