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Diagnosed this year at 38

Naruto_2025

Hi,

I was diagnosed earlier this year. I feel like I may of hit the depression stage of diagnosis. At first I was pleased to be able to understand myself more, to finally feel like there wasn't anything wrong with me. 

A lot of it comes from the lack of care after, In the sense of family almost shrugged it off "you're just you", "would never of guessed you were autistic, you were just you.".

It was instantly forgotten about, never discussed again, no "what can we do to help?"

I'm also struggling to get professional help as I work full time and everything is in the week during the day (Which I get).

Then I'll be so burnt out from work, I can't find the energy to read the information provided to help me. Plus I'll be so completely burnt out that all hobbies that bring me joy are not possible.

Lastly, I haven't learned to unmask. I am work, Husband, Son and who ever i have to adapt around. i honestly wish I could be a hermit for a year, just to shut down and recharge.

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  • I relate to you about being relieved/happy to know that it was being Autistic all along. I've been there about being burnt out as well it must be very draining & a constant struggle. 

    Kind of relate about family as well, but I think it takes time for them to accept it or not & its education about Autism as well. Also I think its advocating for yourself as well, I think? When you're really struggling & they don't understand which is true cos they're not autistic themselves, so it's making the safe space for yourself & communicating that to them. That's just my suggestion, as I am also learning as I go along. Plus I know that communication in relationships is hugely important.

    As for hobbies, I do hope that you're able to do your hobbies when u can, despite being burnt out & like what Mr T said, its learning to be kind to yourself & going through stages of grief. It won't be easy at the start being kind to yourself but keep doing it, for me it was for small things like I didn't get out of bed, I tell myself "it's ok, your body is tired & needs to recover", didn't do laundry "it's OK, try & do one load tomorrow" didn't brush my teeth, I do mouthwash instead. That kind of stuff. 

    Saw Naruto in the name, the anime right? "We are Fighting! Dreamers!" 

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  • I relate to you about being relieved/happy to know that it was being Autistic all along. I've been there about being burnt out as well it must be very draining & a constant struggle. 

    Kind of relate about family as well, but I think it takes time for them to accept it or not & its education about Autism as well. Also I think its advocating for yourself as well, I think? When you're really struggling & they don't understand which is true cos they're not autistic themselves, so it's making the safe space for yourself & communicating that to them. That's just my suggestion, as I am also learning as I go along. Plus I know that communication in relationships is hugely important.

    As for hobbies, I do hope that you're able to do your hobbies when u can, despite being burnt out & like what Mr T said, its learning to be kind to yourself & going through stages of grief. It won't be easy at the start being kind to yourself but keep doing it, for me it was for small things like I didn't get out of bed, I tell myself "it's ok, your body is tired & needs to recover", didn't do laundry "it's OK, try & do one load tomorrow" didn't brush my teeth, I do mouthwash instead. That kind of stuff. 

    Saw Naruto in the name, the anime right? "We are Fighting! Dreamers!" 

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