Diagnosed this year at 38

Hi,

I was diagnosed earlier this year. I feel like I may of hit the depression stage of diagnosis. At first I was pleased to be able to understand myself more, to finally feel like there wasn't anything wrong with me. 

A lot of it comes from the lack of care after, In the sense of family almost shrugged it off "you're just you", "would never of guessed you were autistic, you were just you.".

It was instantly forgotten about, never discussed again, no "what can we do to help?"

I'm also struggling to get professional help as I work full time and everything is in the week during the day (Which I get).

Then I'll be so burnt out from work, I can't find the energy to read the information provided to help me. Plus I'll be so completely burnt out that all hobbies that bring me joy are not possible.

Lastly, I haven't learned to unmask. I am work, Husband, Son and who ever i have to adapt around. i honestly wish I could be a hermit for a year, just to shut down and recharge.

Parents
  • Welcome to the 'Latelings' club. Unfortunately nobody tells you what to do after a diagnosis and it can feel like torture. You need to take your time to work through the change cycle. it may take months or years. Do your research and a bit of reading around the subject.

    The most important thing is to be kind to oneself, realise you are NOT broken but just different.

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  • Welcome to the 'Latelings' club. Unfortunately nobody tells you what to do after a diagnosis and it can feel like torture. You need to take your time to work through the change cycle. it may take months or years. Do your research and a bit of reading around the subject.

    The most important thing is to be kind to oneself, realise you are NOT broken but just different.

Children