Hi from Scotland

Hi Maisie from Scotland from the, currently sun-drenched, East Midlands.  My experience of this it over the past 2 years is this  is social media with the special part of it being, mostly, with other autistic people and those who embrace what i have learned to identify as neurodivergence.  

I have found it a great place to learn about autism, myself and other people and communication in particular.  I am now kind of getting the hang of it  (hehe so far so good.. please tell me if I'm wrong!)

Feeling lonely is something I can definitely relate to post diagnosis.  Doing a bit of research I found this can be a correlate to being both depressed and stressed and those things can come with being autistic - funny thing is not for all autistic people.  So I figure hang on in there and maybe be one of those who aren't one way or another.

You aren't alone in being autistic, I find company and validation on here myself- at present joining in on particular posts and sometimes starting my own - just like you have just successfully done!

Best wishes and (cheekily) och aye the noo!

Hello! How are you today? I hope your weekend is going well so far.

Nope your communication is really good - no problems there that I can see. I'm glad being here has helped you and been a positive experience for you. Communication a big problem for me, I've never been able to do it well and that's led to social anxiety to go along with my regular anxiety so I'm hoping I'll pick up a few tips here on how to do it better without anxiety and meltdowns getting in the way. 

Feels like loneliness is something every autistic person experiences at some point or another. I'm not feeling as lonely since joining here though. And I've met someone (You!) who speaks Scottish so off to a great start

I don't know if you have seen it yet but there's a really helpful advice and guidance section on the NAS website which I had a look at yesterday. There's a lot of helpful pages on there which you might like to check out.

Best wishes to you too and wishing you a happy day ahead.

I'm good thanks Maisie  - going well yes. :-) And you?

How autistic people communicate does seem to be especially different from neurotypical people yes - and the fab resources from this website does explore this Autism and communication

Perhaps I might share what I have been told by many lovely people on this forum please?  "be kind to yourself".  It may be that you may be drawn to this less than being drawn to being kind other people.

So, "Communication a big problem for me."  Dinnae fash yersel -  You might be being hard on yourself about this? 

"Some research suggests autistic people may share information more effectively and have greater rapport, flow and empathy with other autistic people than they do with non-autistic people."

We're a'Jock Tamson's autistic bairns here.  So this forum is a great place for us to be. 

Flip "problem" around and maybe there is more opportunity to get better at communication.  A nod's as guid as a wink tae a blind horse.    Since this might involve using the fab thing that is an autistic brain there is every chance of being brilliant at it in your own way :-)  Hehe, and in my case a good search engine to find Scottish language resources!

Thanks for your kind words - you too.  :-)

hehe remember: there's always time for a wee blether - I look forward to that.

Yes I would agree with that. I'm not sure about you not dropping the mask is very hard for me - I don't even know when I'm masking. I think where I've done it pretty much all my life it's just the norm now and has become "natural". I only really know when I've done it because I feel absolutely drained afterwards, always when I go out and have to be "normal" with other people.

Not patronising at all! 

I'm not sure what my best self would look like? Maybe this is something I can give some thought though and work towards. 

Phased said:

Suggest ask yourself who else can you be - I can think of at least 4 answers to that question.  How about you Maisie

This is a really tricky one and I don't know lol. It's hard to see myself as anyone but how I am now. I'll give this some thought though it's an interesting question.

Yeah it's pretty neat isn't it. Normally I'm an indoor cat but I have to admit it was nice to get out and enjoy some fresh air for once  

Aww that will be lovely for you and your wife. I hope you both enjoy it. Hopefully it'll be clear skies where you are. I don't know what I'll do tonight, probably just relax and watch something.

Phased said:

Getting over the inertia to do exercise is half the trick - "two birds with one stone" like going to see the moon makes it a bit easy to do maybe.

Good point. It definitely helps if you have motivation!

I use Google most days but not really for anything important. I like to look up places and historic stuff lol. All pointless facts for my brain to ingest.

I don't like the taste of champagne - or any alcohol. My dad says it's too good for a wee lass like me lol.

Yeah life can be pretty hectic and complex can't it? Ooh the joys of life!

Yeah it's pretty neat isn't it. Normally I'm an indoor cat but I have to admit it was nice to get out and enjoy some fresh air for once  

Aww that will be lovely for you and your wife. I hope you both enjoy it. Hopefully it'll be clear skies where you are. I don't know what I'll do tonight, probably just relax and watch something.

Phased said:

Getting over the inertia to do exercise is half the trick - "two birds with one stone" like going to see the moon makes it a bit easy to do maybe.

Good point. It definitely helps if you have motivation!

I use Google most days but not really for anything important. I like to look up places and historic stuff lol. All pointless facts for my brain to ingest.

I don't like the taste of champagne - or any alcohol. My dad says it's too good for a wee lass like me lol.

Yeah life can be pretty hectic and complex can't it? Ooh the joys of life!