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Maisie

Hi I'm Maisie. I have been diagnosed with autism not that it was a big surprise as I've been almost sure I'm autistic for a while but even though I knew nothing would change after my diagnosis I find myself disappointed that I still struggle with interacting with others and being different.

A part of me really thought things would be different. I don't know why because I know that those things are core parts of autism. I think it was just wishful thinking on my part.

I've looked for groups in my area but there's only one relatively close though I would have to catch the train to get to it and I'm not sure I could bring myself to do that. Public transport causes me anxiety and sensory overload so I try to avoid it when I can. 

I don't really do social media but I am lonely and tired of my own company so I want to give this a try in the hopes that it will help.

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  • Hi and welcome, Maisie. I'm not a social media fan myself, but I've been giving this forum a go for a couple of months and I'm liking it. (Everybody's soooo nice, which makes a change from real life!)

    My own experience of realising I was actually Autistic (it's complicated) was similar. I didn't expect to suddenly become the life of every party, but I also didn't expect that I would be grieving the younger me who never had a chance and that I was never going to be "cured". I'm getting on towards the "acceptance" phase now: this is not my fault, it's not all bad, I can manage things a bit better with my new knowledge, and I don't have to beat myself up about those parties—they're just not for me ... and that's OK.

    We're in good company here. I hope you find some connection.

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    Hi  thank you. I'm glad you're settling in nicely here. I tried social media once but didn't fit in at all. I found it too fast paced and really chaotic and horrible sometimes. I like it here. It feels slow paced in a good way and everyone is nice to each other. Life is hard enough already I don't want to be somewhere where it's going to trigger me. 

    I think I'm in a grieving stage as well. Grieving the no cure part and trying to accept that this is the way it is and always will be. Not that I really want to cure it because autism is who I am but certain parts of it I wouldn't miss, like the interaction difficulties.

    I do wonder what life would be like had I received an earlier diagnosis but I try not to linger on these thoughts as it makes me worse I think. 

    It will improve. I'll learn and hopefully gain more experience and knowledge that will help me get through it all.

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  • in reply to Damojo

    Hi  thank you. I'm glad you're settling in nicely here. I tried social media once but didn't fit in at all. I found it too fast paced and really chaotic and horrible sometimes. I like it here. It feels slow paced in a good way and everyone is nice to each other. Life is hard enough already I don't want to be somewhere where it's going to trigger me. 

    I think I'm in a grieving stage as well. Grieving the no cure part and trying to accept that this is the way it is and always will be. Not that I really want to cure it because autism is who I am but certain parts of it I wouldn't miss, like the interaction difficulties.

    I do wonder what life would be like had I received an earlier diagnosis but I try not to linger on these thoughts as it makes me worse I think. 

    It will improve. I'll learn and hopefully gain more experience and knowledge that will help me get through it all.

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