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Aspie son age 5 - ipswich - feeling a bit lonely

ByronsMummy08

Hi, my son was recently diagnosed with aspergers. Although I wasn't surprised, like many of you have said, it's still a bit of a shock when you finally get the diagnosis. Waiting to attend a course at the moment. My son doesn't get invited on play dates or many birthday parties but he would so love some friends. I also find it difficult to mix in big groups, think I might have aspergers too!  If there is anyone out there that would like to meet up please msg me. Or just chat on here/Facebook. X

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  • Hi

    As a mum I know how isolating and sad it can be when your child is excluded from play dates and parties.  My son's, now in their late teens tell me they were actually happy not to go to parties, as the few they did go to were hell for them and they would rather have not had that experience, and this may be the case with your child, so don't feel he is missing out.

    Play dates were always kept short, we found the max time was 90 mins, for some reason any longer than that resulted in the children falling out with each other.  

    Are  there activities that he will do where he can meet like minded children? 

    Sometimes other parents are reluctant to send or invite your child over because they are not sure how to manage a child with autism and are worried about doing or saying the wrong thing.  We tended to meet up at parks where the children could play next to each other rather than with each other, which worked quite well.  

    I wish I could say things get easier, but I have found that there is always another hurdle to deal with that you hadn't expected and so it goes on.  

    Finally, make time for yourself.  It can be both  exhausting and extremely rewarding looking after a child with ASC, so you need to make sure you are in a good place and have the energy to deal with the many issues that lie ahead.

    Take care.

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  • Hi

    As a mum I know how isolating and sad it can be when your child is excluded from play dates and parties.  My son's, now in their late teens tell me they were actually happy not to go to parties, as the few they did go to were hell for them and they would rather have not had that experience, and this may be the case with your child, so don't feel he is missing out.

    Play dates were always kept short, we found the max time was 90 mins, for some reason any longer than that resulted in the children falling out with each other.  

    Are  there activities that he will do where he can meet like minded children? 

    Sometimes other parents are reluctant to send or invite your child over because they are not sure how to manage a child with autism and are worried about doing or saying the wrong thing.  We tended to meet up at parks where the children could play next to each other rather than with each other, which worked quite well.  

    I wish I could say things get easier, but I have found that there is always another hurdle to deal with that you hadn't expected and so it goes on.  

    Finally, make time for yourself.  It can be both  exhausting and extremely rewarding looking after a child with ASC, so you need to make sure you are in a good place and have the energy to deal with the many issues that lie ahead.

    Take care.

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