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Just_me

I’m new here and wanted to introduce myself. I have written this post over and over again over the past few days because I just don’t know what words to use, so please forgive me if anything doesn’t make sense. 
I am a 45 years old and for as long as I can remember I have felt that I don’t fit in anywhere and I am different yo other people. I started copying other people, even copying the things they say. From a young age I started to build an imaginary world where there were lots of trees and animals and I felt comfortable being in this world. Even now as an adult I still put myself in that world.

My daughter is waiting for an assessment which got me researching autism and ways I can help her. While researching, my entire life seemed to fall into place. Catching my arms on door frames as I walk through the door wasn’t me being clumsy, sounds and noise that were just unbearable, having to wear track suit bottoms under jeans or work trousers because I can can’t stand the feeling of the materials on my skin and so many other things. It was all there.

Anyway I don’t want to keep going on, I only cane here to say hello

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  • Hello.

    It is part of masking I think. I order to fit in you think plan things. This involves imagining what is going to happen and being prepared.

    This process can become negative by always imagining the worst case, which causes anxiety. Or it can lead to fantasies or best cases.

    A desire for perfection and predictability tends to lead to idealism, which is the fantasy world. It is better and more comforting than the real world, which is often disappointing.

    I think it can extend to relationships too, where you can end up being overly romantic.

    It doesn't sound odd to me.

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  • Hello.

    It is part of masking I think. I order to fit in you think plan things. This involves imagining what is going to happen and being prepared.

    This process can become negative by always imagining the worst case, which causes anxiety. Or it can lead to fantasies or best cases.

    A desire for perfection and predictability tends to lead to idealism, which is the fantasy world. It is better and more comforting than the real world, which is often disappointing.

    I think it can extend to relationships too, where you can end up being overly romantic.

    It doesn't sound odd to me.

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